I have mental fears :(

Question

nowadays my fear is getting increased like anything.. whatever i see am getting afraid of it..{ex} my brother is having a 2yr old gal baby.. i jus lov her like anything..while my mom fries any thing in an oil that time if that baby enter into the kitchen .. i itself imagine that the boiling oil will fall on that baby automatically ill start cryin and ill run and ill take that child from der :( not only for her .. ill if a bomb blast takes place in bombay . i feel it will take place in chennai immedialty, if an youngster met with an accident , i feel it would happen to ma very close friend.. all negative toughts only are der in ma mind, i always have mental depression and fear about ma life and ma near and dears.... totally scared about it how to come out of it ? even i dono how to express ma pain plzzzz help me out.

Answer 1

Stop focusing on everything you don't have and start being greatful to the Creator for all the things you do have.Depression is a CHOISE get over it, stop feeling sorry for yourself,and train your mind to only have positive thoughts. Educate yourself on the power of the mind,and positive thinking,then you will understand there is'nt anything to fear.Remember the things you think about you draw to you.

Answer 2

The thing about a psychology answer forum is that a lot of psychological problems have to be evaluated. Only so much can be identified online.

Don't feel too bad though, I have weird fears myself. I have a major case of   Pnigophobia and I have too cover my neck in some way when I sleep.

Answer 3

Hello, my name is Mitchell, and I have done counseling before. I am currently completing a B. Psychology degree. As a counselor, I have helped people with anxiety to overcome the anxiety before. And interestingly, I have also dealt with anxiety that I have experienced before.

There is an answer! You're not going crazy. You're not sick. You're human, and some interesting things happen to humans.

I can see you experience a lot of fear. I can also see that you know that the things you fear are unlikely to happen in real life.

Many people find that for no reason at all they can feel fear about things they wouldn't normally be afraid of. This anxiety is a part of every human's normal life experiences. It most often goes away all by itself. Sometimes, it takes a little bit longer to go away. When you are afraid of why you are feeling so afraid, or make a 'big deal' out of it, then fears tend to stay around. The attention we give our fears validates them and feeds them.

It also seems that people who are important to you- your close friend, and  your niece (brother's daughter- 2yr old gal baby) are at the center of your fears. This has a meaning, and you may wish to look for what this means; although you don't have to know the meaning to be free of the fear.

What I think is happening to you is something called 'anxiety.' It may be a type named 'obsessive-compulsive disorder.' This is when you have a thought that comes into your mind. The thought scares you a lot. And you have to do something to try and make the fear you feel less.

Lots of people experience this. This can happen when:

1. You feel frustrated in your life. When people feel like they aren't moving closer to their dreams and goals, this condition can happen.

2. When you have psychological needs that aren't being met, this can happen. To me, it sounds like you need more reassurance and a stronger sense of security and safety.

3. Or for some reason that has to do with your unique psychological self.

What you can do:

1. One of the simplest things to do is observe the fear. Don't judge it when it comes. Watch it come, and let it also go again. Just like watching a wave at the shore. The wave comes, little children squeal in pleasure and run from the wave. But then the wave returns out to sea again. Same thing for fears- let them go again.

2. When people don't allow themselves to think about some things, then those things may not go away- but come back in a sometimes more bold way. So you may need to simply allow yourself to think about those things that you fear. As we get familiar with our fears, then they can reduce.

3. You can talk to other people about your fears. And, you can write your thoughts, feelings, fears down in a journal or diary. As we express ourselves to other people, or even in writing (even poetry and song), then we can help release the energy the fears have... This can really make the things we fear shrink.

4. More relaxation and fun can help balance out the fears. Distraction works well for me when I feel 'irrational fears.' When I come back to the thing I feared, I can easily go: "Wow! Why was I ever so afraid?"

5. Deep breathing exercises help you to be calm and feel more 'within yourself'. It leads you to feel the opposite of when you do when your are feeling afraid. Breath in slowly through your nose counting to 5: 1--1--3--4--5. Hold your breath in for 5 seconds, then breathe out for 5 seconds - through your mouth. Do this for about 5 minutes at first. If you start to feel light-headed (dizzy) then just breathe normally. Eventually, your body will catch on, and the dizziness will pass. Build up the breathing until you are breathing for 15 minutes twice a day.

After a four weeks, people who have done this report feeling much better and more relaxed in their lives.

6. Having a phrase (or even up to 6 or 7) that you can repeat 10 times each day that says the opposite of the fear helps too. These are called affirmations.

For instance, if I was afraid of being alone, I might ask myself: what do I believe is true-- but can act against this fear? Well- I also believe that even if I was alone, I would be okay anyway. I can make it on my own.

That last line, that sums it up is my affirmation. "I can make it on my own."

Anxiety can sometimes be caused because of negative self-talk. We might not even notice but our minds might say (in my case) "It would be terrible being alone." Affirmations work, because they are the positive side of the situation. Would it be THAT terrible being alone? "I can make it on my own."

See how it works? :)

In your case, I would suggest that you find the +++positive+++ way of talking back to negative thoughts you might have. Even take some time to look at the fears you have. Analyze them, and ask: "what is the main fear here?" Then- find something positive and opposite to say that will act against the negative thought.

There are books on this subject. This all comes under subjects like "Rational Emotive Therapy" and "Self-Help." Books on these subjects can help a lot.

Talking to an experienced counselor or psychologist can really help you understand your fears, why you have them; and what you can do about them.

My wish for you is to find peace, and I know you can move through this time of anxiety.