I have no friends and rely way to much on........

Question

my boyfreind for my happiness........i know it is sad and pathetic but u really don't understand my history and what i go through.....people my age have always been unfriendly to me and it doesn't help that i live in one of the snobbiest towns around. I'm shy and reserved and can't make freinds easily.. I'm having a very hard time because i cannot see my boyfreind for the rest of the summer because of his job.....and i feel so torn up inside about it......betrayed, sad, resentful, i know its all terrible to feel like this but i can't help it he's been there for me so long, and now he's not and its just an adjustment issue. WE're both 16 by the way.......and i really need people to understand and tell me what to do? Everything in my life has always been a mess and i have severe security issues.

Answer 1

Buy a Doberman dog and everybody will admire you, or else. . .

Answer 2

you are to mature for people your age you might like working or volunteering around older people and I don't mean 20 year old , I mean quite a bit older<hardley any of my freinds are my age , some of us are just old souls and we dont see eye to eye with the generation of our age.  

Answer 3

I really don't know what to say to make you feel better, but I couldn't look for another question w/out writing something to you. I have  not been able to see my b-friend since friday, & I know that's a far cry from the rest of the summer,  but I'm really hating how alone I feel right now. I can offer you an ear if you need one. Just e-mail me directly whenever you feel like this. It may take a day or two to respond, but I will ALWAYS respond. It's just that I'm not always around the internet. Hope I hear from you.

Answer 4

why dont u get a job to then u can make new friendz too and then u wont be so bored and if u dont find anyfriendz

just add me ill be ur internet buddy lol

gd luck

babygyrl AKA sonia - 2k8

Answer 5

Wow, well, at least you have identified that you do have security issues.  Unfortunately there isn't a whole lot you can do to instantly make friends.  I would say go to a bar or a public place where there is drinking, (drinking makes meeting new people waaay easier for me ;-)  ) but since you are only 16 that isn't an option.

The good news for you is that you have identified this problem early on.  I have several girl friends who were exactly like you.  They had a boyfriend all throughout high school and some of college and spent ALL of their time with him.  When the day came that he left them, they realized that they really didn't have any true friends.  It was very hard, and much harder later in life to deal with than at your age.

I can't really give you an easy solution, but you can start by being more outgoing.  School starts back soon, so you will have an opportunity to meet new people.  Think outside of the box.  If it is something you wouldn't normally say out loud, just say it!  You are in the best years of your life.  I know people say that and you don't believe it, but you need to just relax and make the best of life.    

Answer 6

I understand completly! I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and he is one of my old friends. i have one other friend but I hardly ever get to see her.

I live with my boyfriend and he works about all day. Its really lonely just stitting at the house day in and day out with no one to talk to.

At times I would sort of envy him because he has lots of friends....

It was hard for me to make friends for quite some time. I was very outgoing but really shy and timid around new people. I always had a fear that they didnt like me and I would just give up.

I went and found myself a job and I made 2 new friends that day and a few more the next.

My advice to you is to go out and look for a job. I am sure you will make friends at the work place. I didnt think I would but I did!