I have no problem to my kid when it comes to socializing with other kids...?

Question

my 4 year old got easily miggled with other kids because of her good manners and friendly nature.But I wonder why she developed tanrums this past few days..I spoke to her teacher about this.She said that because she's the youngest among the group they like to make fun of her,like,everyone likes to check out her things and said.."this is mine",and my daughter said..I dont like you to be my friend anymore..They like to see the cute expression on her face when she got mad..but her teacher said everything is under control.

Do you think i shouldnt be bothered about this,her teacher said i shouldn't.How could i trust her that my kid is not been bullied at school..

Answer 1

My daughter is 5 now but she also had a hard time to adjust in her new class because everyone was older than her, she used to be aggressive at times and hated to do homework but now she loves her teachers and readily does her work at school and at home, she also had made some friends.

Be patient, discuss matters with her and make her feel that she is a BIG girl, she will adjust as soon as she will find children younger than her.

Answer 2

Your daughter is probably throwing tantrums because she is having a hard time communicating her frustration with the way others are acting or with the way they are treating her. A lot of "polite" children with "good manners" have a hard time knowing how to express disappointment or anger when they are justified doing so. I hope the teacher is making an effort to teach your daughter how to communicate properly and is being firm with the the other children that are pushing her buttons.  

Generally speaking, kids this age don`t mean to "bully" other kids, it is just the way they have picked up things (such as discouraging "babyish" behavior, or thinking they are the "boss" of younger kids). As long as the teacher is working on improving the situation by talking with the other children about your daughter`s feelings and is helping your daughter learn to defend herself, it should be fine and actually end up turning out for the better as far as everyone is concerned.

Answer 3

No offense but she is only 4, she is just learning about social interactions with out you by her side.  When kids first start going to school they pick up on things that other kids do and typically copies them.  If tantrums work for other kids then she will start throwing them too.  If  you ignore the behavior before it gets worse then you won't have a problem.  Basically your daughter is developing interpersonal skills in her pre-school class and has to learn how to interact with her peers.  I wouldn't worry about her getting bullied she will learn how to defend herself and fit in.

Answer 4

Keep an open line of communication with your childs teacher.  Have her let you know why she threw the tantrums.  Children this age do no how to bully so be careful with your bulling thought because your child pobably does not no how to tell someone that she is being picked at.  I would not stress myself out about this situation.  Just watch and help your child learn how to deal with and show the other children that she is just as mature as they are.  I hope all goes well!

Answer 5

Tantrums are something that are common in children this age.  I was in a pre-k class where a boy cried on the floor and kicked his feet when he didn't get what he wanted.  I'm not saying this is why your daughter is doing this though.  I'm sure the teacher is experienced, and handling the situation.  Your daughter is trying to fit it, and it seems that she is having some trouble because of her age.  Children pick up on these things.  As a matter of fact, my cousin who is in pre k has just turned 3, and the other girls were calling her a baby because she has yet to be potty trained.    As long as your daughter doesn't seem to be out of control with the tantrum, and they aren't getting out of control everything should be ok.  Tantrums allow children to get attention, and that is the main reason they would do them, attention and to get what they want.  Try to not give her attention when she has one.  The boy I referred to of having them, the teachers used "planned ignoring." As long as he wasn't being hurtful to other students, they ignored it, and it lessened them as time went on.  Good luck!

Answer 6

Check with the teacher, or even ask if you can watch the class one day without interfering. If your daughter is four and has developed tantrums, it's okay. She is just going through a stage that almost all children go through. Just make sure you keep her in line without being too strict, or else she may be afraid to come to you for help later on. Good luck and take care! ;-) Hope this helps!

Answer 7

Yeah, well if the teachers kid was being treated like that I am sure she would not worry about it. BULL!

I would find another place for her to be. I am amazed at how some people think the kid being picked on needs to toughen up and learn to 'socialize'. That is just a s h i t way of thinking. Punish the children doing the harm and protect those being harmed, I don't see why that is so hard to understand. Find a place for her where she will be safe and protected. The best place for that to happen is with you. Think about homeschooling.

She is trying to tell you something with her tantrums. Listen.