I have noone who I consider a close friend?

Question

I Joined karate hoping to maybe find Quality people there and for the most part did. I am not good at finding time for friends because my husband and daughter and son require a lot of my time and emotional support. I limit m self to trying to make friends with people who do not require a lot of my attention. But I gues you can say there is really noone besides my family that I hang out with. My work is Demanding and I can't even think about one more committment to anyone else. My son has autism and my husband has just finished fighting Cancer but not out of the woods yet. I really would love to just have time for a good friend. Right now I enjoy my friends at karate but have not gone beyond that. I did invite one person over with her son and she delined cause she had to work. Should I keep asking her maying for another time? I am not good at this.

Answer 1

It really sounds to me like you aren't ready to find someone to be friends with just yet. You say over and over here that you don't have the time and don't want to get anyone who requires much attention....Unfortunately, that's a difficult thing to expect.

...maybe give it some time...

Answer 2

Good for you.  The more friends you have the more demands that will be put on you.  If this invited person wants to come over or be a friend of yours she would take the initiative.  Let it be.  Taking martial arts is supposed to be an outlet for you and it doesn't seem to be working.  You sound desperate in this posting.  You could be looking for trouble.  How about taking care of what's going on in your immediate family and let the friendship thing happen naturally and don't force it.  Pushing it could make good people wary.