I have one son, but the next is going to be twin, what to do ? How can I look after them in a small salary?

Question

The twins are going to be born on September 2008. My monthly salary is Rs 5000/- and from other sources are nil.

Answer 1

try to find another source of income. keep faith on God..

just kep trying n ur probs will solve..

Answer 2

One should be prepared for any natural eventuality.  Try to increase your income by engaging yourself doing additional jobs.

Answer 3

Is it you who have created the son you are having? and is it you who has created twins in the womb of the mother the twins which are going to be delivered in Sept.08? Can you say that what ever job or salary you are getting is the result of your own power and will? The answer to all the above questions will definitely be no but it is all due to the great and Almighty Creator. Since he has created then He will look after all your affairs if you have faith in Him. Leave everything on Him and be patient you will be sucessful. Allah alone is the Creator and the Sustainer of all.

Answer 4

My mom was a single mom with 4 small children. And we struggled tons it wasn't until she met my wonderful step dad. Who had a very good education and good job he's been a wonderful dad to us and a good husband. My mom was able to stay home with us. I know this might not happen for you. Ir you really really think that you can't do it you need to think of you babies put them first. There are lots of people who would love to adopt and are finacially stable and set they are just waiting for a baby to love. I know a decision like this would be hard cuz you already have your son and I know you love him. just think about if you had three little ones whom you love but couldn't provide for them. Theres another option people are saying get a higher education and that is a good answer but daycare is expensive and your children would need your time. Maybe years from now when things are better for you you can have more children and give them what they need and they would have a well rested mommy too.

good luck with whatever you do.

feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk chelleyi43@yahoo

Answer 5

if you believe in your heart that you truly cant take care of your babies like you want and think they would be better off with some one else then go for it ... but mind you there are places you can go to obtain help to support you and your babies.. good luck

Answer 6

I'm sorry, there is no easy answer to this. Give up one of the kids for adoption. It's hard but better for the child's future.

Answer 7

Well only buy the essentials when shopping etc., get a family member to help you look after kids buy essentials etc., and when wanting a fun day out go to the park or picnic on the beach etc.  its free or cheap and (((learn to say no to asking lol)))

hope i helped

Answer 8

Your best bet will always be to pursue some kind of higher education like a certificate, associates degree, or bachelors degree in order to make more money without working more hours.  You can usually take out a loan for educational expenses and pay them back when you are finished.  It is worth the money.  If you are in another country (other than U.S.) you might want to search for micro-loan options online.  Good luck!

Answer 9

see, this is why you can go to social services and get help until you can get more on your feet...

I guess by posting here you are considering adoption...

I honestly think you should take the time and look at what the adoptees are saying... most would have loved to grow up with their mom, no matter how poor...

Answer 10

Very difficult situation, but you have to face it. Atleast now you have to look for other sources of income, b'coz you don't have any other chance & expenses will be almost doubled.

pkn

Answer 11

Sorry, but if you are so strapped for money you shouldn't be having more children. Kids cost money, you know this, and now you and your son AND the twins are going to be in dire straits.

Answer 12

You will need to start being very frugal. Only getting what you absolutely need. You may have to shop second hand or at the very least places that have reasonable priced things Walmart/Targert./thrift shops  Also don’t spend any change at the end of  the day put your it  in a jar it adds up then you can put in a savings account. In fact you might be smart in getting someone to help you budget your money. This will probably cost but in the end it will benefit you. How many credit cards do you have?  I would cancel all but three, and one should only be for emergency and gas.

You might read this book - America's Cheapest Family Gets You Right on the Money: Your Guide to Living Better, Spending Less, and Cashing in on Your Dreams

Answer 13

,... IF YOU DECIDE, FINALLY,..... FIND-OUT THE GOOD / NOBLE PARENTS, .... THEY ARE READY TO ACCEPT AND SIGN-OUT, IN A COURT, ALSO. MAY GOD BLESS THEM, THE TWO CHILDREN AND BOTH PARENTS,.. THE TWO.