I have problems trusting people

Question

its getting in the way of my friendships, i feel like no oneis really my friend, and then they get mad at me when i tell them i cant tell them stuff. what should i do?

Answer 1

sucks for you.

Answer 2

I'm with you on this one.I really don't know.

Answer 3

I don't trust others, either.

For me, it's a survival thing spawned in my formative years.

I only know how to be a loner and sometimes it sucks.

Answer 4

I KNOW HOW THAT FEELS I HAVE A FRIEND THAT WAY I TOOK HER A YEAR TO FINALLY START TELLING ME THINGS AND WHEN I JUST BARELY GOT TO KNOW HER I SPILLED OUT EVERYTHING I GUESS PEOPLE ARE JUST DIFFERENT.

Answer 5

The amount and kind of trust is different for every relationship. For most of my life I've have people who I considered and still consider to be really good friends, but that doesn't mean that told them everything that bothered or upset me.

My best friend and I have only recently entered a place in our relationship that we feel comfortable telling each other our inner most thoughts, feelings, and emotions. I've known her for almost 3 years now and our friendship started out as going to get something to eat after work and slowly progressed from there. It took a lot of time for me to trust her completely and even still I sometimes have to push myself to open up to her because I know it will make me feel better.

Start small and build up from there. Once you and your friend both start sharing small details, it will naturally progress. You don't have to trust somebody and tell them everything the second you consider yourselves friends. Let them prove to you that they are trustworthy and you do the same for them.

Answer 6

DONT trust people, they are evil and only look out for themselves in the long run.. You can end up giving a lot, and getting nothing back if you know what i mean. no ones really ever your real homeboy.  

Answer 7

You will probably only have 3-5 TRUE friends in your whole life.  Trust nobody, only yourself.

Answer 8

I have no idea what you should do

Answer 9

See a therapist.  But I don't trust people either.  Because people will s***w you over first chance they get.

Answer 10

Don't sweat it.  For whatever reason (and as a retired mental health professional I can think of a LOT of reasons), you are in that place in your life where trust doesn't come easy.  Don't sweat it.  When it comes around for you again, then you can enjoy it.  But right now, it's just not there, for whatever reason (to protect you, to educate you, to mature you, etc., etc., etc..), and so, just accept it and ride with it, and when that issue or matter is done with, trusting will come back.  You'll be just fine.  Trust me on that one.  God Bless you.

Answer 11

Hey u r okay and i dont think that anything is wrong in this. Its not a immediate effect. Its a spontaneous process that takes time to trust others. They will be trusted if u will be trusted by them , its all abot give and take .

So become trusty person u will get rewards soon.

All the best ..........

Answer 12

Try small. Talk a bit, about something small, and work from there.  

Answer 13

same here. i havent trusted anyone at all until this year. but then it kinda went ehhh. just tell them i have nothing to say..you dont have to have somethign to say all the time. when a friend tells u something usually that means you can tell them things. ACTUALLY I DONT KNOW SH*T SO WHATEVER.

Answer 14

don't feel like thats a bad thing. i trusted people too fast. i trusted the wrong people. and it came back to bite me.  its a gut feeling