I have recurring dreams about my father raping/molesting me, what does this meen?

Question

I don't live with my dad, but I see him about 2 weeks out of the year, and we have a good father daughter relationship. I'm not in any way sexually attracted to him, and he loves me, his only child, to much to hurt me in any way. He and my mother never got along, and he was violent towards her (never me). I lived with my mom far away from there since I was around the age of four. I was molested by my cousin (his nephew) who was 2 years older then me many times when i was 6-ish. I have a vague memory of seeing my mother and father naked infront of me along time ago..but nothing more on that...

..anyways, i keep having dreams of my father trying to molest or rape me.. i even once had a dream that some young girl was telling me that my dad used to sexually abuse me when i was younger. ...

it's driving me crazy, what does this mean???

Answer 1

Dad's often represent the "provider" and if provider duties are becoming mandatory for you, this dream would make quite a bit if sense, especially if you would prefer to be taken care of. Are you starting a job or feeling forced to become responsible for 'taking care of yourself'?

It's equally disturbing when women have similar dreams about their moms. Try not to let it get into your head.

Answer 2

You are close to your father. I think you like it that he loves you. However, you are afraid that he will be violent with you like he was to your mother.

You may be revisiting the trauma you have experienced.

Answer 3

This dream probably doesn't actually have anything to do with your father, except for the fact that your abuser was his nephew and that he was abusive toward your mother-which still all points to abuse itself. This dream indicates that you have not dealt with (made sense of or confronted) the abuse from your childhood. Issues that happen to us in our childhood have a way of coming back in our thoughts and dreams at an age and time in our life when we are better able to deal with them.

This dream is probably your mind's way of telling you that it is time to deal with the abuse. Experts say that fondling as sexual abuse is worse than actual penetration, as far as the emotional problems it causes later on in life, so I recommend that you see an expert, like a counselor or psychiatrist to help you with this issue.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

it could be nothing but then again it could be God telling you something!

Answer 5

recurring dreams

Most dreams contain messages that serve to teach us something about ourselves. Unfortunately many a times we forget what we dream about as we go about our daily routine. With recurring dreams, the message may be so important and/or powerful that it just will not go away. The frequent repetition of such dreams forces you to pay attention and confront the dream.   The dream is trying desperately to tell you something.  Such dreams are often nightmarish or frightening in their content, which also helps you to take notice and pay attention to them.

Recurring dreams are quite common and are often triggered by a certain life situation or a problem that keeps coming back again and again. These dreams may recur daily, once a week, or once a month, but whatever the frequency, there is little variation in the dream content itself. It usually points to a personal weakness, fear, or your inability to cope with something in your life - past or present.

The repetitive patterns in your dream can reveal some of the most valuable information on yourself. It may point to a conflict, situation or matter in your waking life that remains unresolved or unsettled.  Or some urgent underlying message in your unconscious is demanding to be understood.  

Following are some tips in overcoming your recurring dreams.  

1. In understanding your recurring dream, you must be willing to accept some sort of change or undergo a transformation.

2. You must be willing to look within yourself and confront whatever you may find no matter how difficult it my be.

3. You must be able to look at the dream from an objective point of view. Try to get pass the emotional and reactive elements of the dream and get down to the symbolic images. Many times dreams are masked by elements that are disturbing preventing you to delve any deeper. This is a  defense mechanism that your unconscious may be putting up.

4. Be patient. Do not get discourage if these dreams still recur even after you thought you have come to understand them.

5. Learn to accept yourself truly and fully.

Often times, once you discover what your recurring dream is trying to tell you, these dreams will change or altogether disappear

Answer 6

You're blaming your father for the molestation from your cousin. He wasn't there for you (he and mom were split by then), and psychologically you deeply felt the need for protection at that time, protection by him from your cousin, protection that he didn't (and couldn't) provide.

If you want to get past this, you need to forgive him. For everything, including his abuse of your mother and including the breakup of their marriage.