I have serious mental issues...?

Question

So this is going to sound weird, but it's a real issue I have. I always daydream about how one day, this guy is going to come save me from my messed up life. I really don't get along with my family well at all, and even though they say so, I don't really think they love me, and they tell me they don't think I love them. I guess it brings me comfort to think - one day this guy is going to come, and he's going to love me so much, despite all my problems. It wouldn't be an issue, but I'm obsessed with him. I came up with him in 6th grade, and I know his face, his name, and his job. I think about him multiple times in a day - whenever I argue with my parents, and before I go to sleep. Like, I can't sleep without thinking of this made up person. I got a psychic reading, and that night I rearranged my whole fantasy to match the reading. The thing is, I know that things probably won't play out the way I imagined them, and I don't want it to stop me from having normal relationships when I'm older, because I fell in love with some guy that doesn’t even exist. I tell myself all the time “tonight, I’m not going to think about that.” But I can’t stop, and I really want to stop thinking about this person, because HE DOESN’T EVEN EXIST! But really, it’s the only thing that keeps me going through the day. When I’m really sad, I just think – one day, this won’t matter because he’s going to save me, and he’s going to love me, and I’ll be happy, and I feel better. I sometimes feel like if I stop I’ll become depressed or something. People say just to change the fantasy to something else, but I can’t, and it really is a big problem to me. Has anyone else ever had a problem like that? How did you stop? Does anyone have an idea of how I can stop thinking of this person? I really don’t think that it’s a healthy amount to be thinking about an imaginary person.

Answer 1

Just by what you said you need to lay off the meth and let your parents love you!

That or your a spolied brat acting out!

GO ahead and hold your breath, maybe you'll pass out.

Answer 2

thats cool me 2 no jk

Answer 3

I have a mental issue also that is almost the complete opposite. I think that I will never fall in love with anybody, or ever find anybody I like, and I will stay with my family forever and life a non-fulfilling life. I have tried to think of the kind of person I want to spend the rest of my life with, but I don't know what I want in another person, and it doesn't matter anyway. This is because I don't see myself as attractive enough, and I tell myself that I can't let anyone even try to like me because I do not look good enough. I want people to love me for what I look like FIRST, and for my personality second. It's kind of stupid for me to try and fix your problems when I can't fix my own, but I'll give it a go, because I have the opposite problem. I would suggest you take a look at the real people in your life. What is it that you like about your imaginary person? What can you get out of these (real) people that your imaginary man also has? You can not expect this imaginary man to come and take you out of your life when it's the right time, but as long as you meet that man, that's what important. You don't think he's out there, but he is, and when the time is truly right, you'll meet him. Someone very wise who I respect very much once said to me: "We don't get things when we want them; we get things when we need them."

Answer 4

OMG ME TOO!!

Its like a wrote a novel in my head!!! hahaha

I was hoping this was normal tho. lol

Answer 5

this definetly isnt normal. i would recommend seeing a therapist. i have issues with my family too, but this hasnt happened to me. it just seems like you're depressed and this imaginary person is your escape. You should try finding a new hobby to keep you busy or some close friends to hang out with.

Answer 6

Thank GOD, I'm not alone. This is completely normal, it's not like you need to get on Zoloft and go to therapy. Every girl wants the special guy to come and sweep her off her feet.

Even though there isn't anyone out there that is a completely perfect dream boy, you'll find the love of your life one day and say that he's even better than the the boy you used to dream of. you'll stop thinking of him eventually, and you'll probably even forget you ever thought of him, it's something people go through, you're one of them, so don't worry about it kiddo.

Keep on truckin' honey, we're all gonna get out of our h**l filled lives someday. :D

Answer 7

hm....thats kinda hard to tell what you could do..but maybe theres a guy he reminds you of? and you know his face, his name and his job?

Answer 8

If it makes you happy and not sad to think of him, then thats okay!

It is really weird, but that's fine.

get help from someone professional

Answer 9

sometimes ppl need something that can take them away for alittle. sounds 2 me ur fantasy is helping u a bit but i wud c a therapist if u r worried

good luck and hopefully ur fantasy will 1 day come tru

Answer 10

I think you need therapy because you are retreating into a fantasy world when you want to escape reality.  There can be many reasons why you would do this and there is treatment for this.  You are not the only person to behave this way so don't think your alone but do get some help and try to deal with reality instead of hoping your fantasy will come true.

Answer 11

sounds like ou need to tal to a school counsler or mabye a shrink . there is a reason you are going intoa fantasy world . the only way to stop is just stop . if you cant do that then go get help .

Answer 12

I think you sound very intelligent and aware that this fantasy is just that...the fact that you recognize that this person is made up and doesn't exist means that you are okay.  To me, its sort of like escaping into your favorite tv show to forget about your problems or the daily grind.  You're parents love you and you love them, but you are at an age where there is very wide gap in ways to connect you.  Things will get easier as you get older and gain more experience, and your fantasy man, who may not be exactly what you imagined, will find you.  It is okay to focus on something that makes you feel good inside and gives you hope.

Answer 13

Start writing, you could make a small fortune.  This is how romance writers get their ideas ...go for it.

Answer 14

Its reassurance for you.

As mad as it sounds? I think on one hand youre very healthy for doing this. Some people take up self harm or drugs because of the same situation you have. Whilst you've confided in a being. Sort of. To be honest I think you're right, you will find a real guy that you love. And ive got a feeling that you might just find the guy who you've been thinking about for all this time. Even if he doesn't have the same name, job ect, maybe he'll just do everything that your mad up guy apparantly will.

Answer 15

Find a better fantasy... watching movies helps.

Answer 16

I was the same way when I was a teen!  Life just SUCKED to much that my fantasy of prince charming was way better than reality.  Even though deep down I knew it was not realistic that my husband would be 100% financially secure so we would have NO financial burden and that we would live in a cottage in the middle of no where.  I don't think it is "abnormal" to have a healthy fantasy or dream but once it interfears with your daily life or other potential relationships then it probably is not so healthy anymore.  I lucked out found someone who I have been with since I was 16 which has now been 11 years and 4 kids later.  Just don;t expect anyone to meet up to ALL the expectations for a B/f or husband as people really can surprise you.  Maybe talk to a counselor at school or outside of school.  GOOD LUCK!

Answer 17

its just a fantasy people always have them. its normal

Answer 18

thats normal