I have the hardest time telling if people are being sarcastic joking or real

Question

like yesterday there was some question on here.. and someone said.. i had to turn away i nearly puked.. but at the same time had some nasty picture beside their name.. is that a joke.. because like they're nasty.. or do they not notice that similarity.. it happens with everything i look at and answer now.. i never know.. i've actually hung out with people for years because i thought they were like a comedian or something joking around until i found out they actually meant what they said.. what do i do.. i need serious help here.. i can't find anyone in the whole world and i feel like i'm gonna die if i end up hanging out with more people like this who aren't who i thought they were

Answer 1

I understand and am forever sorry.

Answer 2

I am the SAME way. Everyone goes to me, "What the h**l, you take everything so serious and personal." And that even offends me. I always ask people if they're serious or are joking.

I don't know what the problem is, just letting you know you aren't the only one! ;)

Answer 3

Not being able to tell if someone is joking or serious, is a symptoms of asperger's.  Just sayin'..

Me?  I just try to assume people are being serious unless it's really obvious it's sarcastic.  It's better to err on the side of caution, because you'll be less likely to offend someone that way.  

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I read everything you wrote, and I'm going to try to respond.  Honestly, I can't even tell if YOU'RE being serious, but I'm going to assume you are.

Regarding Robbie:  If I had looked at that answer without reading what you wrote, I wouldn't have thought his picture had anything to do with his comment.  I see what you're saying, but I still don't think he had intended his picture to be related to his comment.  He was saying "I think I threw up in my mouth a little" as a joke because he doesn't like Miley Cyrus.  Miley Cyrus repulses him, which made him involuntarily throw up in his mouth.  At least that's how I understand it.

As far you not understanding if your friends are joking, I think you need to remember "Much truth is told in jest."  Sometimes people are being serious, but they have an understanding of how lame/out of date/ridiculous and/or "mean" their thought/comment is, so they will exagerate it to sound like a joke.  In essence, they are mocking themselves, but the goal is to show to the listener that they understand how "off" the comment is by saying it in a mocking way.  

And I don't know if you're being serious about hanging out with people for years, and then finding out that the whole time they were being genuine and not sarcastic, but that's funny in a really dark way.

Answer 4

Coming from someone who is sassy and has had to apologize more than once to someone who has a softer heart or really doesn't get it.. you need to relax. BUt let's face it this is who you are. One thing you mentioned struck me... You are giving all your power to the people you know. Almost like a puppy (no disrespect) waiting in a corner for a treat after good behavior. So what if you've laughed at something that wasn't meant to be laughed at. You say "I'm sorry I thought you were kidding" Again you are giving all your power away by waiting for acceptance or approval. And so afraid maybe they are talking above you

You need to laugh when you think something is funny...

If something is said that makes you uncomfortable ...let the person know and explain themselves...no big deal

This is too much stress on You !

~Peace.

Answer 5

Don't take things so seriously!

Don't let it bother you so much.

:-)

Answer 6

I don't I never experienced anything like that, but some people don't catch sarcasm quick.

I am VERY sarcastic, and now my friends are starting to catch up to my way of thinking and joking. Also I can always tell when someone is being serious or joking, i guess i can tell by their tone and facial expressions.

So maybe learn the art of sarcasm and you will be able to tell when people are being serious or joking.

AND honestly, its ok if you don't get something, when I don't get it, ill be like "you serious?", that's, your causing yourself too much anxiety over this. I am the rude type of person that will intentionally take something serious and turn it into a joke, either to cheer the person up or if im feeling evil, to get them angrier.

Answer 7

I really cannot see a question, after reading through all you wrote, though by the time I got half way through I was kind of getting bored, and not concentrating.

A lot of human humour is based on sarcasm, and seeing the double meaning in something.

Answer 8

Try to choose friends that you understand and enjoy being around. Avoid those people who are sarcastic and stupid.

Answer 9

Give an example of what your friend was saying that was hard for you to interpret. What kinds of things.

*** the example you gave, the "a vomited in my mouth a little", is a quote from Zoolander. but it was actually "I threw up in my mouth a little". So, you wouldn't know why that's funny if you didn't see the movie. No wonder you didn't know whether he was joking.

Answer 10

So you're a little serious, lighten up.

(I wasn't joking in this answer).