I have the opportunity of a lifetime but it means leaving my friends and girlfriend behind. What should I do?

Question

A while ago I was job hunting and I looked at The Times paper as my mind wondered to the section of ridiculously paid jobs.

As a laugh I started emailing my C.V. to the Jobs that where over £120k per year.

Two weeks later about 20 minutes before stepping on a plane to fly out to Crete with my girlfriend, I received a phone call from one of the companies asking me to attend an interview.

When I got back I went to the interview where I was detailed on the job. I absolutely aced the interview and they told me out of the 110 candidates they wanted to offer me the job. They told me the job is for an asset manager. I will have everything I could possibly wish for paid for me. oh yeah. and I will receive £162,000per year. I'm 19 years old!!! I have thoroughly looked into the position and company. every things legitimate and the companies massive.

The drawback: it means flying out and working in Bangkok for an indefinite amount of time.

I told my girlfriend and she broke down in tears. we've been going out for two years and ever since I told her about the job I've felt so guilty. then she came out with "if you go, I don't think I could cope". When I first heard of the job I was so excited. Now I don't know what to do. If I go, I will be set for life. If I stay, I can be with my girlfriend.

Any ideas anyone?

Answer 1

do it, your girlfriend will probably be putting out after you been gone 2 weeks anyhow.  

Answer 2

Son at your age,I would go for it in a New York Minute. Listen things like this do not happen everyday. If your girlfriend is not going to back you now what does that tell you. If she and you truly want to be together,once you get there and get settled you could always send for her later,if she can not wait for a little while are still will not support you with this simply move on. This is something worth going after in your life,and I'm sure your parents would say the same.A great job doing what your good at,and a great salary,and benefits you can not afford to turn this down. I say go for it,before someone else beats you too the punch. Go on now and Good Luck and God Bless You,I truly wish you all the best. Whatever happens between you both, do not look back and regret your decision,women come and go.

Answer 3

your girlfriend should be wise enough to know that you'll probably regrett this all your life if you don't go. I'd encourage my man to do so if it's good for his career. I suggest to confort her, and.. ask her to come with you (you'll have enough money to support her there too). if she's with school and stuff, say that you'll see each other a few times a year, you'll bring her there too.. I mean of course it will be a bit hard, but this is also a test to your relation. My suggestion is to go..    

Answer 4

You have to look at the good and bad from all angels..I'm married with 5 children.I once had a chance of a life time and didn't take it..I have lived with that regret every sense..I could have had everything along with loads of money.My Chance  was to take my band on the road.I too was afraid of success.My advice is that you should go for it.It could be your big est break in your life..Your girlfriend should understand and go along with what ever you decide.Good luck and God bless.

Jerry

Answer 5

Yea I have a great idea take her with you if she loves you that much she will go if not then she didn't and she will have to learn to cope let me tell you opportunity's of a life sometimes NEVER come and if they do it may only be once in a life time I am twice your age I have had several great girlfriends for 3  and 4 years jest go south like BAM I have had friends that I  have known for 20 years jest drop of the face of the earth so to speak so do not let anybody or anything get in the way of your dreams h**l if it works out you two can get married and live happily ever after if it doesn't work out with her at least you will have your dream job, OH and I have known friends that were married for 20 years and out of the blue get divorced so what I am saying is that there are no guarantees in life only opportunities so take yours dude.

Answer 6

At your age I say do not miss out on that opportunity. If your GF loves you she will wait for you. Besides with that salary you will be able to fly her in to Bangkok from time to time.

Answer 7

Dude,  read alchemist.

it is a short book and you will find your answers in it.

Its better if u make her read that too.