I have this adoption/ huge family problem?

Question

Ok.....Heres my problem, any advice ya can give me would be so nice and very appreciated, cuz this situation sux....big ones!

My Adoptive aunt and uncle have been letting me stay with them to live...Thier just my gaurdians untill I get out of school. Anyway, All they do is yell and ***** at me...I have no idea what I did to bring this on myself but it's got to stop. I can't take the threats and the verbal abuse any more. Its effecting me really bad, I'm beginning to think that I am retarded and that I'm never going to graduate high school. she (Adoptive aunt) calls me names all the time, uses my past against me (Via my mother is in jail and so is my bio dad) Says I'm going to grow up and be just like my parents in jail, for some reason or another. I'm not a bad kid...well I smoke but that doesn't make me a bad person. I just recently had contact with my real brother...now she won't let me talk to him...Plus school is getting so bad for me...It's not fair !!!

Answer 1

WOW!  That does stink!  First thing to remember is that you are not your mom or dad (or your aunt or uncle).  You seem to know that you are not a bad kid, you need to keep remembering that and keep telling yourself that.  Next, go see your school counselor.  Believe it or not, they can help you.  DO NOT WORRY about consequences because your home life is not healthy for you and you need to make a change, either in your aunt and uncle's behavior or in where you reside.  Tell the counselor what is going on and ask for suggestions on what to do and how you are feeling.  He/She should be able to provide you with information that can help you, whether you need another counselor or your aunt and uncle need a wake up call from CPS.  Sounds pretty abusive and you shouldn't be subjected to that kind of treatment.  Take care and talk to your counselor ASAP!

Answer 2

You need to talk to someone in your school like a principle or a counselor they will give the right help you need to get you out of this problem. Its sad to see things like this happen to good people, just because their parents mess up.

Answer 3

Ask them if they would be willing to go to counseling with you.

Answer 4

You should have a talk with your aunt and uncle and tell them how you feel but by the way you talk about them, I doubt that will work.  Maybe you need to call CPS on them because what they are doing to you is verbal abuse.  Maybe they can place you somewhere else.  She can't stop you from speaking to your brother.

Answer 5

Talk to a guidance counselor at school and tell them what is happening.  Do you have any other relatives you can live with?  I feel so bad for you.  Good luck and hang in there.  Do your best at school so you can get out of the situation you are in.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry you are going through this I don't know what this world is coming to but you need to talk to someone you really trust like maybe a teacher a school counselor or a friends parent  and if you cant get help from them call the Child help USA National Child Abuse Hot Line at [phone] and they will for sure help you and possibly how old is your brother maybe you can stay with him. Any how I hope you get help and may God Bless you .

Answer 7

I lived in a similar situation with my parents.  It affected me most of my life because Western culture thinks we should forgive and forget when it comes to parents - which is wrong wrong wrong.  Parents should not be absolved of abuse and mistreatment just because they were/are the parents.

Child abuse and mistreatment is the cause of a great deal of our social ills.  Parents need to learn to treat their children with respect and dignity.  They need to treat their children as they would treat fellow human beings respectfully.

You have every right to go to your school counselor or even contact CPS.  Hopefully that will call your 'parents' out and they will have to answer for their behavior - and hopefully too the authorities will help you find a better environment.

I'm so sorry to hear this.  You don't deserve it.  You DON'T.

Answer 8

That is terrible, no one has the right to call you names regardless of what you had done or didnt do. You do not take in a child and be their guardian so that you can abuse them in any way. If you have had contact with your bio brother maybe your aunt is worried that he is not good for you but she should maybe make arrangements to help you meet that brother with her at a mall or something. Both of your guardians are abusing you mentally and you need to either report them or get some help for yourself.