I have this certain friend?

Question

I have this friend that only calls me when she needs something, for example i have watched, fed even bathed her kids without 1 thank you, after i did this most of the summer her husband quit his job and watched the 3 kids himself,she stopped calling (that was fine by me). This past weekend they had to move out of their house and she decided to rent a house closer to where i live...she called me at least 30 times on Sat. by noon to see if i would help. If i ever ask for a favor she always makes up some excuse so it's VERY rare that i ask anything from her or her favorite thing is to say i'll be there in 30 min and not show up...i tried to play her game Sat but she drove me crazy with calling so i finally went over to help, when i got there it was almost like she was waiting for me to even start packing...her house was disgusting and all the while that i was trying to sweep and mop she was texting the woman her hubby had an affair with and they have a kid together trying to set up dates for the kid to visit!! I know that last part is none of my business but it pisses me off that she's soooo caught up in taking care of her husband's b*****d than moving her own kids into their other home all while i'm the one doin all the work..How can i stop this person from using me without having to stoop down to her level!? PS Our 7 year old daughters are best friends and she would be absolutely crushed if she were no longer allowed to come over..

Answer 1

Unplug your phone

switch your mobile off or change your number

Answer 2

Your daughter is more understanding than you think she is, she would understand if you explained that your not going to work all the time for this lady when she isn't taking care of her own business. She would get over the girl friend issue real fast!

The best way to stop her is just say "no I have other things to do or I am busy at the moment". Stick to what you say. I have been where your at and it not only is an insult but its hurtful as well. Once I learned to say no and mean it, true colors really came out of people and how they felt about me. I was a maid and slave, thanks but no thanks! Stop it now once and for all.

Answer 3

If you are not able to tell her the truth, then you have to resort to lying. Seems bad, but you have to retain some form of sanity. In the middle of 'anything' you say "I'm not feeling well and have to go home" Period! Don tr give in and dint answer the phone unless you know what the situation is.Obviously you answered the phone and she gotcha!. Your fault cause you are too good hearted. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Change your phone number and don't give it to her. Your daughter is ONLY 7 and will have several best friends throughout her life. Move on.

Answer 5

I'd would start avoiding her unless you absolutely had to talk to her.  If you do talk to her, talk about how busy you are (even if you aren't) before she even asks for favors.  Maybe that'll stop her from even asking.  And if it doesn't, you'll at least have you excuses ready, just say "remeber, I told you I had to....maybe next time.  Sorry!"