I have this long standing problem..with having an assumption that everyone under estimates me?

Question

How would I go about disproving it?-without appearing insecure?

Answer 1

Perhaps you should just try assuming that you're wrong. That will give you the time and energy to do a better job at whatever you're doing, rather than worrying about what other people think. Amazingly, the less we think about ourselves the better others seem to like us.

Answer 2

It's a binary solution set.

Either 'everyone' is wrong, or you are.

You choose.

In practical fact, if you perform to your expectations,"everyone's" opinion doesn't matter.  

Answer 3

well the fact that you need to prove it does show that you are insecure, true security needs no validation.

What do you hope to achieve here? What is your goal and why?  I think the thing to do here probably is to work on your own sense of security.

I have a website that might help.

http://www.dream-life-coaching.com

good luck

Answer 4

Be confident of who you are , why you are here and let your self esteem simply turn you from thinking negatively to being positive.

This is what I wrote to someone else asking how she could help her friend with low self esteem:

Your friend needs to know that she was never a mistake and that she is somebody that God brought to earth for a purpose and a reason.  She needs to know that for him to choose her is special and that according to the bible God knew her even before she was conceived.  He gave her the parents she has to care for her and if they did not do their job right its no train smash.  She is responsible for her own thoughts feelings emotions, actions and destiny.  She cannot hide behind what others did or didn't do.  She has to be accountable to herself!

Tell her that when God created her he gave her the looks she has to suit the person she is.He gave her skills, talents and gifts that she has to use as tools for her purpose here on earth.  He made her unique and one of a kind and he gave her her own set of thumbprints of which there is no other! When God had completed making up this precious person he looked at her and said "Perfect - shes perfect!!!!!!" That alone is enough to make anyone feel special, knowing that we really are somebody.  

Now what 'somebody" also needs to know is that she has been given one freedom, as have all of us!  She has the freedom to choose what she wants from life.  Good or evil, positive or negative, black or white, forgiveness or unforgiveness (whatever she likes). There is no in between area. Its either one extreme or the other.

If she chooses to listen to negative feelings thoughts and emotions she will find herself feeling unworthy, unacceptable (by others in her own eyes - in other words, thinking what she thinks other people think of her)  critical about self and others, feeling hopeless, unforgiving, nasty, full of hatred, bitter, revengeful, suicidal, wishing others dead, wishing she were not born, anxious, self-pity, deceived, feelings of despair, alone, isolated (often through choice) and so many other negative things like pride, haughtiness, rebelliousness, jealousy and envy.  You see all those monsters are to be found in the negative pit of rejection. Each one feeds on the other and draws more negative stuff to itself. Sitting in the mud of deception and listening to the lies that she is hearing are not helping her and so the poor thing suffers from a very low self esteem.  Outside the pit stands God who is throwing her a life line into the pit called CHOICE.  She is too self absorbed to see this line, but if she becomes aware of that life line, she will let God haul her out of that dismal place and plant her feet on solid fields of hope. She will see the mountains of possibilities and opportunities waiting for her to choose and to run with where the sky is the limit.  Do you get the picture (analogy) I am trying to create for you.  You see, to be positive means refusing to listen to negative thoughts feelings and emotions and simply to over ride them and tell them to go to h**l where they belong. All she has to do is to swap a negative with a positive and to ignore the negative.  It will be hard the first time, but the more she practices this the easier it gets.  Remind her too that positive people are liked and that because they are nice to be with, caring, kind, not focused on self but rather on what they can do to encourage others.  They are joyful, peacemakers, good, faithful and loyal people. The consider others more important than self and do to others what they would have done for themselves.  They are patient and self-controlled. They are considerate and good listeners.  They develop a confidence that makes them walk into a room like somebody to the point where others will say "Hey, who is that?" They walk with confidence, speak with confidence, sit with confidence and eat with confidence.  All it takes is a simple choice. Either way the person must choose and whatever is chosen has either good consequences or bad.  It requires consideration, dedication and accountability and commitment! That's all. All she has to do is choose.  So you encourage her and teach her what it is to be nice and good and positive.  Let your light shine as an example to others and soon you will find many doing likewise!

You need prove nothing to anyone, just be YOU!!!!

Answer 5

well i used to have the same problem, its still there, but fading, its lack of self-confidence and\or self-confidence, the remedy is in ur hands, dont panic and be urself in public, start indulging urself by liking urself, believing in ur qualities, stop that endless self-conflict thats running in ur mind, ur wasting ur time and life, im sure if u look at the bright side ull give that delusional assumption a denial.