being abusive, my family took care of her, bought her a brand new car for her graduation, took her on a cruise, payed for her college, payed for her rent while in college, Not saying she owes us anything just to get the point across of how close we actually were. We went to college together and lived together. Then I got pregnant and we both moved back home, I with my fiance. Since she has been a pretty crappy friend to me. She always calls and says she is going to come see me that day and she will be there at whatever time, and then never shows up and doesn't call and I sit there waiting for her. She won't call for months at a time. Now I understand that she has a completely different life than me now, and I don't expect much from her. I have had discussions with her about t his a few times and everytime she is sooooo sorry, she has just been so busy and she really wants to be a part of mine and my children's lives and she doesn't want me upset with her, and she goes out of her way for like 5 days calling non stop and apologizing profulsely so I forgive her after I talk to her and tell her all I expect is a phone call once a month to chit chat, I don't expect her to come around all the time, And I ask her to simply not call and say she is gonig to come over or she wants to meet me here and then not show, Or at least a phone call because, I have kids and I understand that things come up, but it's not hard to pick up the phone and call and say you can't make it. After her apologies she comes around for about 2 weeks constantly, buying things for us and stuff, then she zips back off into no where and goes back to calling and not showing and stuff. She did it this last time, told me she was comming over with dinner and to make sure I was there, And I really wanted to see her as I hadn't in a week, I had things I wanted to talk about, So I cancel my plans to go visit my new niece that night in the hospital, and she never shows and doesn't call...and I call her the next day...no answer. I get an email a week later saying she's sorry she had to watch her little brother's late. This makes me soooo mad, I decided to just ignore her completely, she has called a few times and I haven't answered. It is so ridiculous that I have to do this, but I have talked to her, about 5 times about the same thing, and I have told her that I can't have someone in and out of my kids life, it is not just about me anymore. I don't want my kids adoring her for the few weeks she comes around all the time and then she just leaves for months. She doesn't really seem to care, so I guess I don't either then. Do you think I am doing to right thing? Thanks for taking the time to read this and give me advice.
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