I have this strange problem....

Question

I always feel very different and kinda mad when they re is nudity on tv of a girl, when i am watching with my boy friend. I hate porno, and i even hate going places where they re Will be other hot girls. Its a very strange thing that i cant seem to control. Its like i get mad at him for the girls being pretty or hot or whatever. I don't even like the thought of my boy fiend looking at another girl. I feel like he gives a different reaction to seeing these other hot girls, but its not the same reaction i get when he looks at me. I mean i try hard for him to look at me, and it still doesn't feel the same. Any one know whats wrong with me?

HELP!!

Answer 1

1) you sound younger and these insecurities will pass

2) maybe you should play hard to get

just my observation, take it or leave it.

Answer 2

It's called jealousy, which is a natural human emotion.  But if you let it take hold of you, like it seems to have already, it can ruin your relationships.  Jealousy comes from your own fears and insecurities.  It really has nothing to do with what your boyfriend is doing.  I suggest you take a closer look at why you fear the way you do.  Are you worried your boyfriend might leave you for someone you perceive as more attractive?  Are you uncomfortable with your own sexuality?  Does nudity make you feel ashamed?  I'm just tossing these out as possibilities for the real reason you feel the way you do.  Once you've figured out exactly why you feel the way you do, you need to acknowledge it and move on from it.  You should probably also talk to your boyfriend about how you're feeling and why.  I'm not saying you should tell him to stop looking at other women, even on TV because that's a completely unreasonable expectation.  But he needs to understand what your feeling and why so he knows where you're coming from.  Perhaps you need a little more reassurance in your relationship.  If this is what you need, please tell him that as well.  Relationships are hard.  But what helps make them work is open, honest communication.

Answer 3

I don't think there's anything necessarily "wrong" with you, it's just that you don't want your boyfriend checking out other girls (I don't like when the girl I'm with is checking out other dudes).  I suppose that there's a degree of what's a normative degree of "possessiveness" and when it's over the top.  I sounds like you're not into p**n, which is fine and you don't want your BF to be checking out other girls.  I don't see anything inherently wrong with that.  Just be clear about it.  If I were in his position and a woman told me that I wouldn't be upset in the least, rather I'd be glad to know that I'm doing something uncomfortable for her.  I think it all boils down to communication.

We're guys; we're not clairvoyant and we don't really understand these subtle hints.  We really need to have women articulate exactly what's wrong and then I don't think there's be much of a problem with such things.

Answer 4

You are just very jelous. Start caring about your own thoughts and feelings and ignore the jelous ones.

Answer 5

Its an unfortunate mix of Jealousy and Insecurity. there isn't really much you can do about it except that a moment when you begin to feel that way, relax and realize that he is dating you not them, that he love you, not them, and that you have nothing to worry about (especially from girls on the TV!)

Answer 6

You aren't jealous. You are very insecure.

Answer 7

Self esteem issues dear, if you were more secure within yourself you wouldn't feel like that.

Answer 8

You are very immature and self centered. The world does not revolve around you and you cannot control your boyfriend. My advice is come to terms with the fact there will always be someone more attractive at some point and you're just going to have to enjoy your life anyway. Or become so neurotic that you will drive away every boyfriend in your life.