I have to go to a wedding on saturday and i get really nervous and really shy. please help! its making me sad.

Question

I have to go to a wedding on saturday and i get really nervous and really shy. please help! its making me sad.

Answer 1

would this wedding happend to be at ford castle and for peter and louise coz if it is im going to anyway dont be nervous because the peoples wedding your going to will like you or they wouldnt have invited you.

Answer 2

Unless you're the bride or in the wedding party then no one will even notice you're there! You have nothing to be nervous about. Lots of people get invited to wedding and don't know most of the other people there. If it makes you that upset you may have a social anxiety disorder and should see a specialist for help. Good luck!

Answer 3

Try stepping out of your comfort zone and make an effort to talk to at least one person there. You could just go to the wedding and make a quick exit afterward.

Answer 4

theres no need to be any of these things, just think like this, its a happy event, you should be thrilled and excited, for the happy couple, plus its an open oppurtunity to mix with people and make new friends and overcome your shyness.

Answer 5

You have a lack of confidence. You need to work on it. The best way is to stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and tell yourself that you will be confident and - repeat it several times for several days and this will change. Believe me this really works, i used to be like you and I read that in a book. Also the more you have to deal with people the more you will gain confidence, so by avoiding people and situations you will not improve. It will get easier. Do the standing in front of the mirror thing!!

Answer 6

Just think of how nervous the bride and groom will be and they have to speak out in front of everyone! Just make yourself look gorgeous and go, you never know who you might meet and the more you mix with other people you will find your shyness will begin to diminish. It is quite normal really.

Answer 7

You can try to psyche yourself up for it, but don't overdo it. Pick out something nice to wear. Leave early so you're not stressed out when you get there because that can add to your discomfort. This is a great opportunity to work on your confidence. Every time you make an effort to change an area of your life that you're not happy with the more you add to building your confidence. Make an effort to talk to one or a few people. Start with someone you know. This will probably be a little nerve-wracking, but greet at least one person you don't know. Ask how that person knows the bride and groom. Ask what they thought of the ceremony (if you approach the person after the ceremony). You can try role playing while looking in the mirror. Write a list of questions you can ask. Eye contact can be hard for people with low self esteem or confidence problems. Someone, I think on here, suggested that if you can't look a person in the eye, look at the person's nose. Supposedly people can't tell the difference. Just don't go looking for boogers, lol. Go to the wedding, relax (if you're tense you'll probably feel it in your back or shoulders), and enjoy. Remember, the day is about the bride and groom, not you. That might help ease your nervousness. I hope you can enjoy the wedding and mingle. Best wishes. :o)

Answer 8

Fortunately, as long as you don't stand out then nobody will pay too much attention to you.  Everyone is there to see the bride and groom.  Some things to do:

1.  Don't wear a white or black dress.  Both could get you negative attention.  Since is summer stick with something light-colored and not too s**y/flashy.

2.  Don't drink too much alcohol.  You may feel braver but you may do something to embarrass yourself.

3.  Follow the crowd.  Even if it sounds horrifying, do what everyone else is doing.  Get up for the bouquet toss (before someone drags you over to it.)  Dance when someone asks you to join them on the floor.  Blending in is far, far better to the shy person than standing out for refusing to join in.  This is the hardest to do but best in the long run.

Answer 9

if your not driving have 2or 3 tots of vodka an hour before you go ,works for me every time, even when i got married ha ha