I have to initiate contact with coworker/friend-should I play hard to get?

Question

Is it best to play hard to get when you do most of the initiating (emails, p/c's, visits) and he doesn't? Yes, I do have a thing for him & I think he does for me, but I feel that he isn't that into me if I have to do all of the initiating. He is always VERY receptive and happy when I initiate contact and we sometimes email each other all day at work. We used to email each other with other coworkers included & now everyone has dropped off the emailing except for us. We're not friends outside of work. We work on different floors and are very busy, so it is hard for us to do much outside of emailing. He is always happy to see me, when I do visit him. He was the last to contact me and he did say it had been a while since he had heard from me. Three weeks have passed & I still haven't responded to his email. I want him to chase after our friendship like I feel I've done with him. Is this a good idea? Do you think it is even worth me pursuing this friendship given I'm almost always the pursuer? Oh a long time ago I turned him down twice for a short walk to get something to eat, but he hasn't asked me since. I've dropped a couple of hints about lunch since then, but he hasn't caught on to them and I wonder why. Thx!

Answer 1

Your question is an hour long, sound like hard to get is your forte

Answer 2

You've already set the precedent for chasing and, it seems, you may not understand what the word initiate means(?) - it's an oxymoron to be the initiator and be the one pursued.  Let it go and  set your sights on someone else as, if he were interested, he would have found a way to get your attention during the three weeks which have elapsed.  

For time number 972 (near enough) -> men are the ones with testosterone flowing through their veins, men are the conquerors, men need the thrill of the chase, men want to catch the prey and on it goes.  I'm guessing that 75% of the young women in today's generation never had their mother explain the Fine Art of Man-Catching!  The best way to catch a man is to let him catch you.  No guy worth having wants a Female Pest in his life who keeps waving her I'm Available Flag in his face - this guy can't be such a dunder-head that he didn't get your hints about lunch - he got them and, made the decision to not pick up on them so, as I said, find someone else to pursue ---> without him noticing this is what you're doing.  Gadzz - I must write that book, someday ....