I have to keep talking bout endless topics??

Question

My friends that i hang out with, are known for being chatterboxes. Im so fed up, because they make me feel like i cant talk like them and i have to make sure im prepared to have tons of topics so i can fit in. I feel pressured to make sure i do, and i can never have a ordinary convo even with family, and everybody. I dont know how to relax and not talk so much because I feel forced to have a really interesting convo. My friends are annoyed by me because i try act like them. IM starting to think everyone is supposed to have lots of things to say. I have more pressure. I wish to never talk again. Helllpp..

Answer 1

You don't say how old you are, but as a teen there are tons of pressures to conform and fit in. "Friends" will quickly tell you if you are living up to their standards. Sometimes an indicator to change friends to where you feel more accepted. You sound too young to have the correct conversation for all situations. That comes with time experience and education. Half of learning to be a good speaker is to be a good listener, teenagers tend to forget that.

I would suggest to study topics you enjoy and join into those conversations otherwise be happy to sit back and listen.

Someone once told me God gave us two ears and one month so He must have wanted us to listen twice as much as talk. Seems like there might be an ounce of truth in that.

Answer 2

I use to be exactly like you.

I had friends that just use to talk and talk and i could never get a word in and even If i wanted to whatever I said just didn't seem to fit into their conversation.

Then i would sit there thinking of something to say or pretending to be interested - when really at the end of the day i might not have been.

I think people like you just don't need to speak that much.

There's that old saying 'That the wise listen, the fools chatter'

Don't bring that into the conversation however but maybe think about that when the conversation is hitting fever pitch and sounding like a cage of birds and you can't think of anything to say.

Feel good about the fact that you're brain just doesn't need to emulate noise, and when something actually intrigues you or interests you trust me you'll have plenty to say.

besides friends love you for who you are not for who you're trying to be.

so trust that too and if they don't then move on.....

you've got plenty to learn and perhaps it's not all from them?

x

Answer 3

What keeps you from loving yourself as you are?

Discover that, it is part of your ego structure and associated with some repressed misperception your MIND holds regarding yourself] and your life will improve greatly.

Try keeping quite all day because you have a canker sore in your mouth... and see what a joy the day is for you.

Peace