I have twin boys, but my ex has his brother?

Question

should i keep it a secret to my son that he has a fraternal twin brother? he is only about 4 months old now, but what about down the line, like when he is about 4 or 5, or even older??????????

Answer 1

no... u really should tell him the truth

Answer 2

I think you should reunite them. They will find out later in life, so why not bring them together sooner.  

Answer 3

Yeah you should tell him!! Because if he ever goes to request his birth certificate for his own personal reasons then it will be a big problem!! Just tell him the truth!

Answer 4

don't keep it a secret, you shouldn't even keep them apart.

siblings should grow up together, especially twins, it's wrong to have siblings livivng with seperate parents (unless they're older and choose to), but to give them no options is cruel. and to not even tell them they have a sibing is worse, they will find out eventually and they will resent you and your ex for not telling you.

despite your issues with your ex, you should work out a joint custody arrangement, and do whats best for the children!

please consider this, as it upset me to hear you were seperating twins and not telling them..

Answer 5

Can I just ask why they were split up to begin with?    

But yes, I would eventually tell my son that he has a twin.  I would never keep that from him.  

Answer 6

Do not keep it from him. It will mess him up when he gets older.

WHy would ur ex have ur other boy??

Answer 7

U should tell him and make sure u let them see each other soon!!

let them grow together at least see each other couple of weeks.

Answer 8

wow, you and your ex should have really worked things out to where the boys get to see each other. That's going to cause a LOT of damage in the long run, and your son may end up resenting you when he's older.

Answer 9

Why did you ever seperate them? Do you know the bond that you will tear apart? This is absolutley unfair to your children, why do you each have one?

Answer 10

Awww. . . . I'm sorry. I have fraternal b/g twins and I couldn't imagine seperating them. Twins have such an amazing bond. Yes, please tell him in a couple of years. That is a bond that would be sad to not know existed.

Best of luck to you !

Answer 11

you should tell him.

hoenstly its much better introducing him to his twin now then when he's older. when he finds out when hes older , its going to be harder for everyone.

Answer 12

h**l no don't keep it from him.  i can't believe you split them up.  you should let them meet now and grow up at least around each other, if not in the same household.  twins have an extremely unique relationship and they need each other.

Answer 13

r u afraid dat ur sons will think their uncle the  dad ??? anyway y wud u hide ???? i m not finding any relevence....anyway tell ur twins wen dey ll grow enuff 2 understand everythn...

Answer 14

My 10 year old just found out that she has a 4 year old half sister. She was very upset. Ok so very doesn't even describe how upset she is. I would advise on tell them the truth.

Answer 15

No I don't think that's right. Why were they separated in the first place? They should grow up together if possible - or at least see each other frequently. How could they be kept secret from each other anyway? Wouldn't your ex visit the son who lives with you? And wouldn't you want to see your other son??

Answer 16

NO you shouldnt even keep them apart. Twins can sense oneanother.  

Answer 17

I have no kids or anything, but i strongly think that you should tell your son as early as possible that he has a twin brother. I've seen a lot of situations where family members kept someone else from another family member for so long, and in the end it didn't turn out good. It's not fair to your son's if they don't know that they have a brother! You should tell him as young as you can (when you think he can understand it). You should also let them see each other, let the son with you go to your ex's or the other way around. You could also set up a day to let them see each other with you and your ex both there (if you can get along enough!). Are you planning on letting your son see his dad? Because if you do, don't you think at some point around 4-5 he'll ask about the boy that looks like him that lives with daddy? and calls him daddy too! If your not letting your son see his dad for whatever reason (meaning he can't see his brother either) at an early age you should definitely tell him about his brother, explain to him what he likes and show him pictures, im sure he will be really fasinated and when he's older he'll be happy you told him. Good luck on whatever you chose (:

Answer 18

OMG dont keep them apart! That is a wonderful thing to have a twin!

Get them back together and just alternate from both of them going with you at one time then with their father at one time. If this was only one child you had then you couldnt split him in two! lol get them back together asap, they need each other!

Answer 19

Yikes, that's an unusual situation.  I think that you MUST find a way to work out some sort of cordial relationship with your ex so that not only can both children know both parents, but the brothers can know each other.  It's fine that you've decided on this unique way to "share" custody, but I think you should just raise them as divorced parents would, knowing each other with both of you in each other's lives.  

Answer 20

If this is not a joke question, then my answer is to tell him about his twin from the very beginning.  I'm sure they were split up for a very good reason (it seemed as the time) but it is essential that you don't lie to him.  You can just make it something he has always known, along with the reason for the split.  If possible at least arrange to have pictures exchanged and perhaps visits as well.  If you have to "tell" him later it will be awkward and he could resent you for the separation.  

Answer 21

i think you should tell ur son when he is older,cuz he needs to know about his brother and fsther, cuz when he gets older and found out by himself, he will hate you, for not being truthfull to him, you will lost his trust, so tell him!!! better than when he found out himself!!!

Answer 22

Of course not! You all cannot do a Parent Trap scenario and just split up twins. They are each unique individuals and each of you should have the privilege of parenting both of them.  

Answer 23

I don't know what the relationship is between you and your ex, but if possible these children should spend time together as they grow up in order to form a bond.

You should definitely not hide the fact that he has a twin from him. Finding this information out later could cause him to resent you for keeping the secret from him.

Answer 24

Tell him, or he'll end up being really mad at you when he matures and does find out. Because most likely, he's going to. Whenever you feel he'll understand what you mean.

Answer 25

you should not keep his brother away from him.  it's not fair to the children, try to let them be apart of one anothers lives as much as possible.  i have seen the results of not telling someone that they are adopted until later in there life and it's not fair to that person and i would think that this wouldn't be much different, actually maybe worse if you knew their whole life that they have a brother out there and didn't tell them.  definitely tell him about his brother, you'll be glad you did.  good luck!

Answer 26

I wouldn't hide it, and I'd do whatever I could to be sure the boys see each other as much as possible.

Why on earth did you split them up, anyway?