I have two Beautiful children a boy and a girl aged 4 and 7 and I know how very lucky I am and realise that?

Question

some people never get the chance to have children,but I am recently getting really really broody. My heart is saying have more but then my head says enjoy your freedom and re-start your career,but anyway I had a procedure recently and I can;t have any more. I am 32 and I just want to know is this a phase has any other moms gone through this. Again I know I am blessed but I can't help this feeling.

Answer 1

Hey and welcome to my "I wish I hadn't got sterilised" club. I did it last August after the birth of our 4th child. The reason we did is because like you my heart rules my head when it comes to kids and I knew I would go on and on, so now I can't. It was the right decision and I don't regret it but would be quite chuffed if my tubes reattatched themselves lol.

Answer 2

My wife went through this for a while,we already had two kids and another one would have put me in a eary grave.lets just say i avoided her for a week until the feeling passed.two kids are plenty for anyone.

Answer 3

you do seem pretty lucky because my now 54 year old aunt hasnt got kids she can have kids but she never seemed to find the right guy she isnt as lucky as you don't ever feel you are unlucky

Answer 4

I'm in the same boat. I have two also. one girl 11, and a boy 8. But Ive been having this awful feeling like i just want one more. All my Friends are adding new additions to their families. Of course none of them were planned. But i have babies all around me right now. So i hold them and my husband hopes that when they cry and p**p in their diapers that i will remember how good i have it now and the feeling will pass, but it doesn't.  But then i think about how perfect our little family of four is. Like when we go to a restaurant we can sit a booth. It only fits four. Or like when we ride rides at six flags we can ride all four or two and two. I could go on and on, I think the third might feel left out. Crazy huh? My husband says hes not ready yet for another but I'm am. My daughter says she doesn't want me to have anymore and my son says only if i can guarantee i have a boy. I am 30 something and would love to have another one.

Answer 5

Ha-ha. Children bring you down. You already have children and no doubt they take up a lot of your time already. Do you really want more that will even take up more of your spare time? Also, think about it: you'll have a BABY. Babies are a considerable amount more worse than 'children'. They need 24/7 care. Also, that's quite greedy wouldn't you say...? The average amount of children for a normal couple is two. You have two; be grateful. Like you said people aren't even fortunate enough to have one child. Enjoy what you have, while you have it.

Answer 6

i am pregnant with my 3rd. i was told in feb (9th) that if i didn't get pregnant before july 1st this year, i would have to have a partial, mabey full, historectomy(endometriosis). i found out on feb 13th that i was pregnant. i was very lucky, because i wasn't even trying, or even sure i wanted another. i was having your same feelings when i was told this might happen (the historectomy) a year 1/2 ago. it is very normal. for number one, the choice has been taken from you. it isn't like you chose to have your tubes tied. that is the first thing. then on top of that you constantly think 'what if" "what would they have looked like" etc. you need to definitely start on your career if you want to . put your mind into the set that you no longer have the blessing of a choice, but your life is still filled to the brim and you can continue to make it better, period. im 31 and will have my tubes tied after this one, because this pregnancy was the most horrible of my expirience ever. i will feel the same way probably, even though i literally begged them to schedule the surgery already. that is the way your mind works. good luck, and enjoy those kids of yours while they are young. they need their mommy, more than ever right now, and it sounds like you need them too.

Answer 7

it is natures way of getting us women to reproduce, we all go though a time when our body say have more sometimes it passes and other times it doesn't you say that your body doesn't want you to have any more i think that you should enjoy what you have this feeling will pass. to are blessed with two lovely children

Answer 8

I think its a psychological reprocution of your proceedure.  Before, it was your choice to have kids or not.  You no longer have the choice.  Remember the old sayings like 'You always want what you cant have' or 'The grass is always greener on the other side'.

Maybe, if you really feel you would like more children, you could get involved with the foster program, or a foreign exchange program where you are a host.  THere are a ton of other programs as well that you could parent or be like a parent without physically having more kids of your own.

Answer 9

freedom you have a 4 and 7 year old what is this freedom you speak of?

Answer 10

Sorry I'm not a mam, I'm a dad, grandad, and great grandad, I think I should stop as well, ha,ha.

But getting back to your question, yes it's a natural feeling, as I said in an ealier question, we are only here on earth to pass on our genes and have our species servive, so this feeling to have more children is an inborn desire, it's why we are here. But I'm glad you have two nice children, now you have the job to protect them which will be a nightmare as they put Mercury in vaccines, and Aspartame in soft drinks, Fluoride in our water, etc,etc.

Answer 11

Surely you must also consider the cost of this as well as your husbands feelings on the matter.

Answer 12

Hi, We have three. The youngest is 4yrs & my wife really, really wants another one. I have 4 from a previous marriage, all grown up & living abroad. It's more difficult when you're doing it all again the 2nd time around as I'm not so full of youthful vigor as I once was. However I'll probably give in as I have never regretted having any of them once they've come along. Desiring to & having children is perfectly natural. Each of them is a treasure & an adventure in themselves. I totally agree on all points with Apollo on the previous posting. It is a job to protect them from all the dangerous substances that now lace our food. It's also a job to protect them from the negative input so freely available from the media. When it comes to money everybody loves children, particularly mainstream corporations who pollute them for financial gain. But that's another subject. You are truly blessed.

Answer 13

sorry to hear about your procedure, but yes it is normal to get broody, and yes how blessed you are to have two lovely children, and yes it will go away, but there will always be that niggle now that it's not possible , unlike being broody can just goes away, so now you have to talk to your partner and tell then how you feel and get it out of your system that way , with some closure.

Answer 14

There is a valid psychological basis for wanting what you cannot have - by getting sterilised, you can definitely never have more children (reversals have a high failure rate); and so you want one anyway.

Also, your youngest will now be becoming quite independent with nursery and school soon, so you are going to miss having a toddler to look after 24/7.

I'm told it gets easier, and I can see that you have already started to rationalise the situation, so good luck.