I have upset my husband? and i am guilty how do i make it upto him?

Question

I am expecting our second baby, and have been keeping unwell lately.

Very low bp and low glucose levels.

My husband works for a busy medical department, and had no time to come see me.

I wanted to understand him that he was busy but then i lost it and told him that he doesnt have time for me and he should just get lost.

He said i should understand him and was almost into tears, I really felt bad , I am really guilty ..........please help me understand the whole thing...and make him feel nice.

Answer 1

Personally, I understand he has a busy job, but YOU should come before that.  I am not saying spend every moment with you, but nothing at his job should be more important than at least coming to see you 1 to 2 times a day at least and his job should understand that, or he has the wrong d**n job.  A job is not suppose to come before your family.  I understand you feel bad and you can tell him you didn't mean to hurt his feelings, but your feelings were hurt.  Explain to him that you see it is important for him to put you first in somethings.  He has no lunch break?  he could of easily came then.  

Answer 2

I would apologise and spoil him.

He may be receiving lots of pressure at work to keep up with everything and he may be feeling guilty at the same time that he couldn't make it.

Spoil him to a really nice meal take him on a date and tell him it was the hormones talking.

Answer 3

Next time you see him, explain your reasons for your outburst (hormones perhaps?  feeling lonely?) or whatever it was, and tell him you are very sorry for hurting his feelings.  Listen sympathetically to whatever he has to say about it.  Opening up the lines of communication is the best thing.

All the best

Answer 4

apologize to him and tell him you are sorry, and know that he loves you and want to help you, but being pregnant and not feeling well makes woman do and say stupid things.  Explain that until the baby comes, you might do some crazy things, and not to pay any attention to them and just give you a hug and tell you that he loves you anyway.  When you feel yourself getting in one of these moods, tell him you are going to be doing stupid things and to be prepared.  

Answer 5

sweetie just tell him you are very sorry for what you said and that you didn't mean to hurt his feelings! tell him that this pregnancy is not being so good! also tell him how much you miss him! take care sweetie!

Answer 6

I'm sorry that your having complications with your second pregnancy, and even more sorry that you feel the need to make your husband feel nice for being a butt hole to you.  Instead of worrying about him you need to be worrying about the baby your carrying.  You have your priorities mixed up.  As far as your husband goes, he is not a good man and needs someone to show him some compassion and respect for you.  Good luck sweetie, take care of yourself and your baby.

Answer 7

Next time when he come home show him that u realy enjoy and appritiate the time that u and he is together.  

Answer 8

Well,we all snap sometimes, and say things that we don't really mean.Just let him know that you want to apologize for what you said to him.Let him know how the pregnancy can get a toll on you sometimes.Tell him you understand how he is working hard for you and your family,and what you said shouldn't have been said.Let him know you realize that you would take the blame in this situation.Say baby I love you, and I didn't mean anything that I said.Tell him you just go through emotional roller coasters that causes me to miss you when you're not here.Then just say I hope you can understand where I'm coming from.If he says no,then don't worry about it.You gave him your plea.To make it up to him,whenever he comes home,do something romantic,cook,etc.Good Luck!The two of you will be o.k.

Answer 9

just simple apology, and few soft hisses and he will forget it.

Answer 10

He had no time to come and see his wife who is carrying his child? He needs to understand that you are vital part of his life, not an extra responsibility.

This is something you are both going to have to get sorted out because how are you going to explain to your child that "daddy is just too busy to come and see you"? A child should NEVER have to feel guilty (like you do) about requesting time with him. What do you tell ur first child  (I notice you said you were upset that he didnt come and see you - no mention of how hard it must be for your child)

You got some thinking to do on behalf of your children, not some "making him feel nice"!