I haven't told my gf of 3 yrs. that I have HIV, should I tell her?

Question

Hi, I've been in a great and trusting relationship with my gf Kaela for 3 years now. We are both very loving to each other and can talk to each other about almost anything. But I feel bad though, because when we first got together I told her that I was a virgin. That was a lie, because the last girl I was with, I found out she was sleeping with 5 other guys and I contracted HIV from her.

The worst part is, being that we are bf and gf, is that I slept with her numerous times unprotected and now that I'm worried Kaela might have HIV because I got it from my last gf. What should I do? Should I tell her? You think it's possible that Kaela might not have it?

Answer 1

You sound like a liar so I clicked on your profile and, guess what, it's not there.  Hopefully your account has be canceled.

If what you say is true then you are guilty of attempted murder and Yahoo will be asked to report you to the proper authorities.

One way or the other, you are a dumb person for admitting guilt for such a crime in such a public place as this.

I think you are in trouble.

EDIT

You have been reported and I have asked that Yahoo report you to the police.  So my friend, expect a knock on the door.

Answer 2

well

she has it,

you need to tell her,

plain simple tell her because you dont, shes gonna get sick one day in the future and it wont go away, because idk if you know this but HIV kills what are call T cells in you blood stream, when your T cells [white blood cells die] they can no longer fight off common illnesses like a cold or flu, when the t cell count gets to low HIV turns into AIDS and after that point something as simple as a common cold will kill her and you slowly,

im sorry

Answer 3

Bud, i would recommend you call your local HIV/AIDS community counseling agency and go talk to them PRONTO.  They can help you verify if you had a false positive (not likely), AND help you to tell your GF.  BTW,  do NOT have unprotected s*x with anyone again.

Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 4

It is very possible that your girlfriend does not have HIV.  The chances are that she does not have HIV.  Notwithstanding, I do not really understand the question.  How can you not tell her that you are HIV positive.  She has an absolute right to know.  If she is HIV+, knowing can result in her receiving proper treatment to keep the disease from advancing.  If she is not HIV+, she can then make an educated decision as to whether she wants to continue risk it with you.  Not telling her is the single most selfish thing that you could do.  

Answer 5

yes. tell her and get her tested immediately. it may make things hard for you but if you dont and she has it and doesnt find out for 10 years you basically handed her a death sentence. tell her now so her doctors can help her

Answer 6

Yes you must tell her so she can get tested.  From now on please have protected s*x.

Answer 7

You are completely worthless to know you have HIV and have unprotected s*x with someone with out telling her. Hope you get what you deserve. Oh and pray she doesn't press charges against you.

Answer 8

if you are in a trusting relationship then she expects honesty from you and you shouldnt of lied to her in the first place especially with something so serious. You really need to both get tested and always use protected s*x methods and even this does not prevent hiv and stds at times. Its only fair that you tell her. If you love her then you would not keep such an important thing from her. Your feeling bad now because you know that you are lying to her. So be honest so you both can get checked.

You have been with her for 3 years and you've basically lied to her since the beginning, i'm sure will be so hard to trust you again if you've lied to her since you've first met and been keeping this secret that is critical to her very lively hood. Be a man about it and fess up. If you truely love her then you will want to protect her from anyone and anything and this is something that is included. You've got to be responsible about this. This isnt a game and sleeping with her unprotected is a hugeeee risk! Especially if you have any seminal fluid dropped in her. even a drop has enough cells to do a lot of damage.

Be honest and definitely tell her! Just tell her that you have something important to talk to her about and sit her down and tell her that you have some things you need to say and to hear you out before she responds sot that you can get a chance to say everything that you need to. Good luck honey, and hope that you will make responsible choices in the future.  

Answer 9

You have to tell her, because she needs to be tested. She is probably infected.

You SAY that you are in a great, trusting, loving relationship, but for the last 3 years, you have LIED to Kaela and put her life in danger. You must not care about her much, because if you did, you would have told her the truth 3 years ago, before you started having s*x with her.

Are you aware that if you know you have HIV, and have unprotected s*x with another person without telling them you have HIV, you can be PROSECUTED? (even if she does not actually contract HIV).

If you would have told her 3 years ago that you are HIV+,  she may have stayed with you.  Now, when you tell her,  don't expect her to forgive you for putting her life in danger.  In fact, I hope she files charges against you.  You should be in jail!

Answer 10

this is actually sad that their are people in the world and are passing it on to people without even telling them.. and you have been in a relationship for 3 years? what are you thinking? REALLY? i can't believe this.. if someone did this to me, i would be soooo soooo mad and hurt. i would think life was over.

Answer 11

Move to San Francisco.  

Answer 12

Lets put it this way... You didn't feel good when you found out someone gave it to you and you knowing you have it and not telling her makes you worse then the person that you contracted it from. you should definitely tell her. She deserves to know and if you love her you would

Answer 13

You are a sick liar. I read your other question and you said you had a wife and a five year old son who puts cats in the microwave and that was the same day as this question dumbass!

He's a sick freak!

Answer 14

Interesting post... Your GF of 3 years thinks you are a Virgin... Does your Wife and your 5 year old son know about your GF on the side?  So did the wife give you HIV, or was this before your Wife 5 years ago?  Cuz I read your other posts about your son putting the cat in the microwave...   and now you have HIV...  How many more stories are you going to make up???   Do you think it's funny to make light of a serious disease???  

Answer 15

OMG your going to h**l how can you do that to someone you love I hope she leaves you once you tell her because that's messed up you don't love her your a lyin a** b*****d and yes its most likely true that she has contracted hiv from you did you not give a sh*t about her? You f**kin dog I hope you burn in h**l if I was your girl I swear I woulda killed your a** if you did that to me atleast you should've used protection with her she trusts you annd you went and betrayed her omg its most likely she has this life threatening disease because of you omg that's the worst sh*t I ever heard in my life your trully a f**ked up person just cause you have it you gotta infect someone else 2 wow your so lucky your not involved with me hiv is life threatening so am I I pray she leaves you and that she does not have hiv you need to be lonely for the rest of your life tell her asap and have her go get tested even though she is most likely to have it wow may God be with you  

Answer 16

ohhh my god.

yeah ive had friends who went through this

its best to tell her. and get her tested,but she probably has it.

i wish u the best!!!!

good luck!

Answer 17

In Canada it is illegal to have sexual relationships with people if you are HIV positive and you do not tell them. They have a right to know. She needs to get testing done and you both need to start using protection.  

Answer 18

YOU GO TO HER and tell her you have hivs  

Answer 19

if I was your girlfriend..you would of been murdered.

Answer 20

You have most likely given her the virus and if she doesn't start taking medication she could die a slow and painful death; it is all your fault. There is nothing you can do about it now, but you have to tell her. What if she gets pregnant? What if she is sleeping with other people? You have put countless people at risk by not telling ehr and using some self control. You have to tell her immediately and get her tested.  

Answer 21

I am not going to jump on your case in a big way,  cuz we all do stupid things sometimes,   but It was the wrong thing man,  you shouldn't have had unprotected s*x with her, knowingly you had HIV.    

Look you are gonna have to tell her and face the music.  It is hopeful that your gf has not contracted the virus from you,  it is quite  possible that she will be ok.  Not everyone can contract it that easily.   But she needs to be told and get tested.   You also need to make sure you are ok and get checked regularly and get the right help.  

I am sorry though you have HIV,  I really am.  Please be responsible from now on.  Please be careful.  I wish you well.  Peace.