I heard my parents having s*x, what should I do?

Question

it really disturbed me. I know it's part of life and it's how i got here but i don't think its fair for me to have to hear that. i try putting my ipod in and tv up but i feel like i still hear it im 16 years old i know im old enough to understand they do have s*x im happy they do but should i maybe write my mom a note telling her how i feel and asking to maybe wait until i'm not home or something..please i need a lot of advice i'm unsure of what to do.. p.s this is not the first time i've heard it ..its happened many times and i dread it..please help..thanks

Answer 1

If it disturbs you that much you could trying having a chat with your mum about it.

It's quite normal behaviour for your parents.

Answer 2

be REALLY REALLY REALLY loud and try to annoy the h**l outta them just to p**s 'em off... LOL that's what I'd do.  

like talk on the phone and talk really loud, or turn up your video games really loud, or put on a horror movie and scream really loud every 5 seconds (don't forget to turn the TV up really loud) LMAO

or if you play guitar turn up your amp really loud or something =P turn it up so loud it makes the house shake haha.

Answer 3

I now how u feel exactly it use to happen to me all the time. it drove me to the brink of insanity. But , for some reason my pillows always worked.

P.S. this may be a bit disturbing but if that doesn't work, clear ur mind don't think of it as them having s*x, think of it as someone hot or someone u like having s*x with you and maybe even m********e.

Answer 4

Talk to your mom, or your dad if you're closer to him.  Just let them know that you understand they love each other but you would appreciate it if they were a little more descrete about it.  I'm sure your parents will be as embarassed as you are at the situation.  No parent wants their child hearing them in the bedroom.

Answer 5

As weird as this sounds maybe just tell them that you can hear them when they have s*x. They likely don't know you can hear and will likely stop if you let them know.

Answer 6

if you hear it then go outside but shut the door on your way out really loud so they know that you herd them and then they'll be like ohh sh*ttt.

and then if they come outside and ask you why you went out there than say you dont want to listen to them having s*x. plain and simple.

Answer 7

The same thing happened to me - my mom and stepdad (who I hated so it was even worse).  I would talk to your mom, let them know they need to be more sensitive to others in the house.  If you don't tell her, you will keep having to hear it, which isn't fair to you.  I told my mom and it was quiet after so I didn't know when or what was going on.  Good luck!

Answer 8

I doubt if your parents know that you can hear them.... if possible go outside.....but better yet tell whoever you are closer to that you can hear them.  They will keep on doing it unless they realize that you can hear them.

The note sounds like a good idea!

Answer 9

UGH it's happened to me too! i was like, oh my god, i can't believe.... it happened twice. once on christmas! i was so disturbed, i said to my mom oh my god. you and daddy did it, and i heard you! she made fun of it and we laughed it off... but i'm still traumatized.

Answer 10

GO SEE A SHRINK!!!!!!!

Answer 11

Forget it happened...

Answer 12

Haha that happens to me too im 13 tho! I just keep knocking on the door asking questions. Then send my sister to ask questions lol. They finally stop after about 10 q's 5 each. They did it on thanksgiving! I was like its a holiday dont traumatize me! Then they told me when they were going to a s*x store! OMG!!!! traumitizing

Answer 13

when i heard my parents having s*x for the first time it was very disturbing too. so one day i just banged on the door and told them that "i dont want to hear it" they where imbarassed and when they came out i told them "how would you feel if you heard me having s*x" they got the picture and didnt do it when i was awake.

sometimes i heard them at night but i would put my ipod on like you do and pass out.

thier going to do it but they shouldnt let you have to hear it durning the day.

late at night is awhole other story though

Answer 14

You can't ask your parents not to have s*x. You're old enough to understand that s*x is a part of a healthy adult relationship, but if you feel comfortable talking with your mother about it ask her to be more considerate. Maybe to play music or something so you won't hear anything.

Answer 15

oh, i know the feeling. its horrible, especially when its your mom and your new stepdad. i confronted my mom once and she went ballistic saying i should get the h**l over it and stop listening, and i was like, yeah because when i want to sleep, thats really what i'm going to do instead. just turn your tv up really loud, and i mean really really loud. soon enough they'll hear it and might question you about it, and then you can be like, oh i keep hearing gross weird noises or something like that, maybe they'll get it, maybe they wont. now i just ignore them, or just leave the house. i've got caught coming back in and just told them that it pissed me off so much i had to leave and they just kinda stopped after awhile.

*** be careful, if you have a mom like mine, she'll be a bitc* and say something like, oh well this is my house and i can do whatever the h**l i want. theres never a real good comeback to statements like those.

Answer 16

Talk to her. "Mom, I'm well informed on the nature of sexual activity but It bothers me to hear you in the act. Is there a way you can schedule it at a time when Im not home?"

Answer 17

Don't do anything. If you have to, and are comfortable enough to, mention to one of your parents that they could try and be quieter because you can hear them.

Answer 18

Listen to your iPod, or radio, if you don't want to hear it.

Answer 19

Just don't dwell on it.  You're parents are allowed to have s*x and confronting them about it will just be uncomfortable.  They shouldn't have to wait until you're not home, unless you pay the bills.

Answer 20

I thought if my parents heard me they would get the picture and stop being so loud , but instead, they made fun of the noises they heard. They thought it was hilarious.  I say you need noise canceling headphones for your ipod.

Answer 21

Lol im 15 and i jus tell my mom 2 keep her private life....PRIVATE

Answer 22

Your just going to have to get over it.  s*x is a part of adult life and they have the right to have s*x.  Just make sure to have your headphones on while you try to sleep at night.  They shouldn't have to reorganize their life to have s*x while you are away, you are 16 years old and are well aware of s*x.  I heard my parents too and just would wear headphones.  When you are a father you will understand that when you can get to have s*x you have s*x lol because when the children are little you don't get much chance.

Answer 23

That's not a bad idea about the note to your mom. I'd just go up to them and tell them that you don't appreciate it and if it continues then it will make you think less of them.

(That is, while you are home)

Answer 24

Either talk to your mom about it or learn to cope with it.  Those are your only options.  If you are 16, can you leave the house and go somewhere for awhile?

Answer 25

You can confront them both and let them know that they should be ashamed and such behavior in your house is completely unacceptable!

Or say, "If you can do it, I can do it..." And bring someone home and make sure to be loud.

But your best option would be to just ignore it for now and if it happens again, talk to whoever you're more comfortable with and just explain how you feel.

Answer 26

either write a note, im not trying to make you feel like "the bad guy" but you have to take in mind that your gonna want to have s*x with your husband someday, and you dont want to feel like u have to wait until ur child leaves. your gonna be an adult also, just keep that in mind. your gonna do it where and whenever without your child telling you to wait until they leave

Hope this helps XOXOXOXO GOD BLESS

-Snoop_bunny226

Answer 27

Casually congratulate them on their performance in the bedroom and they might be a bit quieter next time.

Answer 28

LOL, do what i did!!!

I BLASTED my screamo music and it made them really mad so they came in my room and asked me to turn it down and i asked them to do the same thing about their s*x noises =] Trust me they got embarassed and now they aren't loud anymore =]

DO IT!!!!!

:D

Answer 29

That reminds me of the time I had the SAME situation. What I did was ignored it and try going back to sleep. If you flush the toilet or turn up the TV, it might signal to them that you're awake and they might try to hush things up for you if they hear it. You can't ask them to wait or not do it because it's part of what that helps married people stay married. You can also ask to sleep over at a friend's house occassionally to give them some time for them to have the house all to themseleves.

Answer 30

block it out man BLOCK IT OUT !!! do anything jst block it out cause they wont stop n it ll only get worse if u tell em to coll down

Answer 31

i think that you should bring that up because that is very disrespectful. it might be strange to tell them directly. i suggest you hang out outside or leave the house and leave a note to them on their door saying you will come back when they get through. or maybe just let them know indirectly that you can hear them having s*x. maybe at breakfast say "Man, you two sure were loud last night"