I hold grudges on people , will it backfire me? because i can;t forgive people who do me wrong? i hold them?

Question

till the day i die

Answer 1

All this negative energy will only impede and slow down whatever progress you have in life. All the time and energy spent harboring such thoughts and feelings towards those that did you wrong will not get you very far in the end.

I hold a lot of grudges too, but find that they (all this hatred, anger and violence) only help to push me forward for a short period of time, in short intense bursts in whatever I do, before making me burn myself out eventually. I would then need some downtime before I would be able to progress again.

All this negative energy is extremely strong, but doesn't last for very long.

Answer 2

Not forgiving them is kind of like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die! It harms you, you are seen as bitter and twisted, and they couldn't really care less what pain you are in, it doesn't affect them one jot!

Forgiving someone is not just letting everything go and letting them have a go at hurting you again either, that is a common misconception. You can tell someone what they have done, get their opinion and maybe some insight into why they did they thing that they did, and you can let it go. But to trust them again is another story.

Trust has to be earned, and to trust people too readily is not wise either. If they really regret what they have done, then forgive, but let them know the steps they need to take to re-earn your trust, don't just jump straight back in, be on guard until they have done what it takes for you to trust....If they don't care about re-earning that trust, wash your hands of them and learn a lesson that some people just don't care about another, just themselves.

You'll eventually lose your enthusiasm for life, think all people aren't worthy to get to know and have a miserable life, so yes I do suggest that you don't keep yoursellf in the past, you stagnate where you had the hurt, and never grow. That will never be good for you.

You may need to swallow your pride too, to go and speak to the offender.

Hope some of that helped you.

Mel

Answer 3

Yes it will, having a hateful mind for someone is just as bad as doing such an evil thing to them. I can tell you right now it may be a difficult task, but try to take it a step at a time, do a good deed and over time you will feel like you have good blood flowing through you.. by that time you will need to forgive those who have done wrong against you, and try to forget it. Forgive.. God will judge you for your actions according to your conscience

Keep a clean mind, and try to follow Jesus.. I don't know if you are religious or not but prayin to God and Reading the Bible is a good way to get started.. Good Luck and God Bless!