I hope this question makes sense?

Question

I recently slept with another girl and I probably contacted an STD. I'm scared too get tested for myself, but I'm worried more about my wife. I want to get her to go get tested but in a way where she won't get suspicious and ask questions and find out about my affair. I obviously care about her and my marriage. Does my question make sense ??

Answer 1

YOU NEED TO GO AND GET TESTED, AND YOU SAY YOUR WORRIED ABOUT YOUR WIFE DOESNT SEEM YOU WERE THINKING OF HER WHEN SLEEPING WITH THIS OTHER PERSON. FOR YOUR WIFES SAKE I HOPE YOU DIDNT GET HER AN STD IF U DID AND I WAS HER I WOULD KICK YOUR A**, AND LEAVE.

Answer 2

First of all have your test you could be worrying unduly.  If you have got an std I don't know how you can get round having your wife treated without confessing, Sorry pal you got yourself into a right dilemma.  Be mature she may forgive you.  My ex cheated on me and if he had asked me to forgive him I may well have, but I never got the opportunity he just ripped our family apart.  Good luck.

Answer 3

MY FIRST ? WOULD BE WHY DID U DO IT TO BEGIN WITH!! IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOUR NOT SUPPOSE TO CHEAT ON THEM OR HURT THEM IN ANYWAY!! AND SECOND IF YOUR THAT WORRIED ABOUT HER THEN YOU NEED TO BE HONEST WITH HER SO SHE WILL GET TESTED!! I HOPE I HELPED AN WILL BE GLAD TO ANSWER ANY ?'S U MAY HAVE!! JUST EMAIL ME!!

Answer 4

Ha haa the only thing you care about is getting your thing wet and i guess you did it good didn,t you .  

Answer 5

You should have cared enough to keep you privates in your pants.

Answer 6

Well if your wife goes and gets tested and an std shows up, what do you think she is going to do? Women are suppose to have there pap test done once a year, although they do not screen for std's. She would have to ask to have a std test done. She is going to know you had an affair.

Why not make an appointment for yourself, find out if you do have an std. Then if you do, man up and tell your wife! It is coward men like you that really hurt there wives. If you gave your wife something, she has the right to know, there a so many different things that could happen to her if a std goes untreated! You do not deserve your wife.

Answer 7

If you really cared about your wife and marriage you wouldn't have cheated.

Answer 8

If you cared about her and your marriage then you should not have cheated. You need to be upfront  with your wife and tell her the truth and let her go and get tested. Question? Did you ever think about this when you were cheating? Your wife sleeps with whoever you are sleeping with (in a sense) when you cheat. She chose to sleep with you but not the girl. Think about that

Answer 9

Yes, your question makes sense...but your problem does not. If you think you have an STD, it is YOUR responsibility to get tested before you could possibly give it to your wife - not your wife's responsibility to get tested for something you did.

I suppose my question to you is, if you care so much about your wife and marriage - why are you sleeping around? Your wife will find out about the affair - its best to tell her now before she hears from someone else.  

Answer 10

You are very contradicting in what you say. You say you care for your wife, but at the same time you cheated on her? and to make matters worse, you could have an STD?? Take responsibility for what you did and get yourself tested. Oh and yeah, she HAS THE RIGHT TO KNOW.

Answer 11

Your question makes sense.

You sound like a coward and a creep.

Obviously if you cared about your wife and marriage, you would not have slept with another woman. Now it is YOUR responsibility to get tested, and if you have contracted something, to tell your wife and tell her how. If your relationship is not already based upon lies, why would you make it so?

If you ask your wife to get tested, she will know what you did, unless she is an idiot.

Answer 12

If you suspect you have an STD you need to get tested first.  If you find out that you do have one there is no way around telling your wife and having her get tested and/or treated too.

I won't address your morals here because you didn't ask for that.  You do need to be responsible.  Get tested.  

Answer 13

why should she get tested..... you are the one who cheated.

go get tested.... and then own up to your stupidity and tell her what happened.

Answer 14

Deal with it, there is no sympathy awarded

Answer 15

Your question makes perfect sense . What you done and how you are treating the situation makes absolutely no sense .

If you obviously care for your wife and marriage why would you have an affair ? Even more puzzling is why you would not want to be tested for the STD that you believe you may have contacted ?

It's not just the health and well being of your wife that you should be concerned about , you should also be concerned about your health and well being .

What if you contracted AIDS ? Wouldn't you want to know so that you can take precaution so that you can stop spreading it further ?

What if you have AIDS and gave it to your wife ? Then what ? It's no longer about just you , this concerns your wife and all others that you may come in contact with .

If you think your wife will be P.O.d over the fact that you had an affair , wait , you haven't sen any thing yet !  

Wait until she finds out that she has contracted a STD and that the person that she contracted it from is her husband . What will pi$$ her off even more is that fact that you knew about this all along and did not tell her .

The best thing that you could possibly do is to tell your wife of the affair , then tell her that you are afraid that you may have caught an STD , then tell her that the BOTH of you need to go get tested for an STD .

Yes she will P.O.d , but not nearly as much as she would be if she has to find out on her own .

For your wife's sake AND yours , go get tested immediately !!!

Answer 16

the good news is: if you get tested and its just a bacterial infection, you can take antibiotics, get rid of it and never have to tell her. Suck it up and get tested. the bad news however is: it could be viral in that case, you WILL pass it on to her. Good luck.

Answer 17

Before putting the cart before the horse, take the test yourself. You may find that all this worrying is for nothing. If the test comes back positive then you have to deal with telling her. No matter what you did in a weak moment, is worth letting your health go. I do take offense at the statement you made about caring about your wife and marriage. If you truly did, you wouldn't be in this predicament in the first place. You had a choice and you chose your personal needs over the need to say NO! Now, you have to deal with the consequences of your actions! Maybe someone's trying to tell you something!

Answer 18

At this point you might want to get yourself castrated.

If she ends up with the StD she will probably find out at her next gynecological checkup.  Then you will have to beg forgiveness.

Sucks being you!