I invited 160 people to my wedding and only 60 Rsvp! They were do today! HELP!

Question

My wedding is August 31st and everyone was supposed to RSVP by the 1st. Only 60 people RSVP! I know more are coming. As the bride is it my job it call and see if there coming or does someone else call. What to do?

Answer 1

What do ya do? Run to Walmart, buy onena them 8 doller kiddy pools...Stop by the motel and use their ice machine to steal some ice to fill the kiddie pool...Swing inta ABC and load the pool up with Bud Lite bottles and Patrone.....Then get home for it all melts too bad. Call all yer people and tell em you forgot to mention beer !

Answer 2

Give your Fiancé the names of his friends and family and tell him he needs to call.

Remind him that if they don't RSVP they won't be provided for at the reception if he balks, remind him that he wanted these people there, and that if they don't RSVP, they won't be able to attend.

Then you get your list and make the calls.

Answer 3

You or your mother can make the calls explaining that you must give your caterer a final count and would hate for them to drive all the way and not have a place set for them.

Answer 4

Pick a day to start calling. Make sure you leave yourself  plenty of time to o this, and leave plenty of time to call any vendors that are waiting for a final guest list.

Don't be upset, this is the age of it's all about me me me  and my power, and guests for a wedding use it, actually saying things like I'm going to send my invitaiton at the last minute and s***w around with the wedding. And in the mix are some scatterbrains who forgot, and some who wait until the last minute to respond in case something better to do comes along.  

Treat all of the ezually, be nice and pleasant and just say, "Hi, this is Sally, the final guest list is due at the caterers this Saturday, please give me a call back so I know if you are coming to the wedding or not. After Saturday, If I do not hear from you, I will assume you are not coming.

Yes it is up to you to make sure it gets done, but you can ask whoever you want to help you.

Answer 5

Oh....that is soooo rude!!

Wait until about Tuesday.  Perhaps people just threw it in the mail today.  So...give it until Tuesday....then divide your list.  Have your husband (or his parents) call those on his side.  Do the same for your family and friends.  See if your mother or another family member can help you (or one of your bridesmaids).

Ohhh.....that is my biggest pet peeve about weddings.  Geez....you supply the stamp and the self-addressed envelope.  How hard is it?  

Answer 6

I gave it an extra week and then I received more.  Then I had to call the ones I was missing.  I just asked if they would be attending and how many so I could include them in the dinner count.  It was a hassle but the only way to know for sure.

Answer 7

oh congrats and maybe they forgot about the invites i think you should email some of then to remind them good lock and have a nice day  

Answer 8

Hey thats my birthday!  = ]

Well, everyone was supposed RSVP to mine by the 2nd, tomorrow, for me and I think maybe ten (small wedding)actually sent in their cards. So I know where youre coming from. I will just be calling and stressing that I need an accurate head count to give the caterer (I actually dont have one, just want to stress that its important they dont lie and say they'll be there and have me pay for their dish!)

I wouldnt worry too much. Just call later this week

Answer 9

This is typical.

Email all the ones you can.  

Let your fiance contact the ones on his side.

You personally contact the ones on your side .. especially the ones you think will definitely be there.

If others are friends of your parents, etc - let them contact them.

Allowing others to help you - will make your task easier.

Answer 10

Invite more people is what I did. I sent out invites up until 2 weeks before. But just don't make my mistake and prepay for catering and then not have that many folks. We paid for ten more people than we had.

I hope that your MOH or mom will help you call the people though.

Answer 11

I would give it a bit more time... you'll get more responses back within the week. A friendly email reminder would help - most people (like me) that are invited to Labor Day weekend weddings tend to think that the response time would be more towards the middle of the month, not at the very beginning! Usually caterers only need to know about 2 weeks in advance of the final count so that they can plan for the appropriate amount of food and staff.

Also - given that it's a major summer holiday weekend, you have to understand that a lot of people may simply choose not to come. However, they absolutely need to tell you well in advance of this!!

Good luck and remember - the most important thing about the day is that you are marrying the man of your dreams - everything else is a distant second :-)

Answer 12

Don't panic.  If they were due today, it's very likely many people didn't SEND them until today.  You'll get more in.  And you can enlist your bridesmaids and/or mom to help you do the calling (mother-in-law to be too).

Deep breaths!  You'll get a lot more straggling in, trust me!

Answer 13

Unfortunately, it's up to you unless you can talk someone else into doing it for you. Perhaps your mom, the groom or the maid of honor could help you out?

Answer 14

You should call each guest that did not respond yet.  This way you will know for sure.  It is quite proper and etiquette to call if the guest did not respond.

Answer 15

I feel the same as ILOVEWEDDINGS does!!  I had two people from out of state not RSVP and one that lives only an hour away and one in the same town as me.  The one that is in hour away said he was going to be out of town.  OK, he knew that so send the dang thing to me!  I had to call them all.  At least I didn't have 100!  You poor thing!!  I agree to wait until Tuesday and then start calling and emailing.  Calling is better because you don't have to wait to get a reply to an email.  Then if you still have no responses by then,  take it as they are not coming.  Good luck and happy wedding!!

Answer 16

I had the same problem what I did was give my mom a list of people who did not respond and her and my grandmother split the names and called everyone for me.

Good luck and congrats. I got married 8/28/07 and august is a great month for a wedding

Answer 17

Unfortunately it's common for people to do this. Some will have misplaced it, some will expect the other family member to have RSVP's for them, some will be coming in tomorrow and some next week and some next month. You get to be stressed about it. So, what can you do to help your situation? Simma down now. Then, just remind people however you see fit. If you have their email addresses, send a little anticipation email to everyone. Make it a simple little paragraph that talks about how excited you are. Make sure you put in it the date and a friendly reminder for those who have not yet RSVP'd. Sending this to everyone makes it easier than having to figure out who did and did not. And with this economy it's possible that some people aren't sure about their financial status and whether or not they will have enough money to purchase a gift, new dress, etc. Don't stress! You're going to be there and so is he that's all that REALLY matters.  

Answer 18

This is a great job for your Mom and your future Mother in Law.  It will give them something to do, so they will feel helpful. Plus, they'll get to talk to all those relatives on the phone before the wedding!  "How are things going?"  "Oh, just great.  Stan and I are so excited for the wedding!  I sure hope you can make it, we'd love to see you" etc.  They'll love doing it.