I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6yrs, we had done everything together, and now I am so devastated?

Question

How do I fight the blues, it is hurting so much, I cannot stop think of him. He is with someone else and was cheating on me with her all of the time......but I love him dearly, I feel like I cannot do anything without him, it is so difficult for me to even concentrate on my job these days.

Answer 1

Six years of boyfriend-hood, you poor baby. Commitment is hard to get from most men. A lady has to set it into her standards early so he knows what the game really is about. Men do commit to games. It's that challenge they love. And honey, once a cheater always a cheater even if he is married, so you have to check the guy out first.  

Answer 2

I feel really bad for you. Break ups are awful and it is really hard to concentrate on work or anything other than your ex. I am coming out of a break up myself so can relate. It is good that you have come on here asking for advice. Reach out to people and you will find that there are so many people who have been through similar things and have come through it and gone on to meet better people.

Here are a couple of things I found helps: writing your feelings down,  indulging in things such as a nice haircut, trying a new hobby and volunteering for a charity that you believe in. I would definitely recommend the latter as it helps to put things in perspective.

It will take time but you will make it. Hang in there and keep telling yourself that you deserve a better man (even if you are not strong enough to actually believe it just yet). You will be fine.

Answer 3

it would even be harder for you to be with him now that he has cheated on you.  yiou would never be able to trust him and you would always feel insecure.  You dont want that.  give it some time, you will heal.

Answer 4

I am sorry.  That must be so hard!  It will take time to heal, but know that you deserve to be with someone who loves you 100%.  Remind yourself that he was not as good as you think because he was cheating on you.  Cheating is selfish and immature.  You deserve someone faithful and devoted to you.  It may take time to completely heal, but keep an open-mind for the right guy (a faithful guy) who will come along.  Take care.  Start a new hobby or class that has nothing to do with your old guy.  Meet some new people...it will help.

Answer 5

except the fact that your normal. break ups aren't an easy thing. and give yourself a break, six years is a long time.

But what you need to do is be you. find the things you like to do and do them. whatever it is. read a book, shop, eat an ice cream cone, whatever you want to do.

Get a break up buddy. your buddy must be willing to talk to you no matter whatt time of the night or day it is. talking will help. talk about anything when you feel the desire to cry or when you can't sleep.

go for a walk with tissues and just think about things, after all you are in mourning. a relationship is a life and now that way of life is over.

next make a list of all the things you wanted to do but couldn't before like tv shows you liked and he didn't, time to go to bed, talking on the phone to whoever you want. be you

get a new hair cut or get your nails filed, go buy a new pair of geans and go to a movie with a friend.

have fun with your life but don't call him, don't waste your time with him anymore he hurt you and its just not worth him knowing about you anymore take that from him.