I just can't stand my mom anymore!?

Question

i just cant live like this anymore. my mom acts like a complete and total bit**. im only 16 so it isnt like i can move out yet but i cant stand it here. my mom is so controlling and nothing is ever good enough for her. i try and do everything she asks me to do but if it isnt just right she gets so mad which makes me really upset. i spent most of today crying bc we got in another fight and i just really dont think she likes me. i dont totally care about that but i just want to be dead. ive wanted to kill myself for so long now and i kno its so selfish and thats why i havent but idk how much more i can take of her. help

Answer 1

How old is your mom? You guys might be experiencing a clash of times. She may be menopausing while you are in adolesence. Do this son, Get in more activities rather they be at school or in the community. You can't move out yet and it's probably hard to get a job at your age but pretty much everybody will let you volunteer. And that will also give you a boost on your resume when you get ready to work. Plus it gets you away from your mom most of the time. Let her argue with herself.

After you do that she will notice that you're not spending alot of time together. She'll start missing you then you can sit down and talk to her and let her know that you really are trying.

Answer 2

First of all, never commit suicide or kill yourself sweetie- that's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You can make it through this, you're sixteen now which means there is only two more years until you are able to move out and start a life of your own & have fun and such. At this point in time, everything may seem like nothing can get better but just remember- when something hits rock bottom it can only get better from there. Right?

When you're feeling calm and cool, confront you're mom. Talk to her about how you feel- let her speak when she wishes and don't talk over her. Remain respectful towards your mother and don't raise your voice when you confront her, let her know that you don't know how much more you can take and explain that you only want to strengthen the situation between you both. If trying to talk to her doesn't work, then I'd suggest counseling. It'd be best if you could convince your mom to take part in some sort of family counseling- to build a bond with your mom. You both will be able to find out where one another is coming from... and hopefully you'll both enter with an open mind. You may have to make some changes and she may have to make some changes, you know?

Talk to a school counseller about the problem if you feel there is no one else there for you. Talk to your bestfriend, close relative, sibling, anyone! If you have a close relative you can explain the situation to them and possibly live with them for the next two years before you're able to go off on your own. Even staying with a good friend of yours, if that is a possibility. Good luck, I wish you the best~

Answer 3

I am feeling just like you! i feel so depressed and I can't talk to my mom. She doesn't understand me, I get so aggravated with her. We yell at each other all the time, but its because my mom won't open up to me, She doesnt know how to talk to me about herself... my dad on the other hand is the person I tell everything to, I never fight with my dad ever. . . It's to the point where I don't even like being around my mom at all. Last night I cried myself to sleep and thought about killing myself... but I always remember what my 9th grade teacher wouild tell us, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Don't give up.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Where's you dad? Could you live with him or a friend? Killing yourself is NOT the answer. It is an easy way out of a situation that isn't the end of the world.  Not the best situation, but, you can make it. I am sorry you are having a tough time with your mom. Just take it day by day. Try and get involved with school clubs, youth groups, or sports. Maybe get a job. Keep yourself busy. Good luck Hun!!!

Answer 5

Sweetheart I'm so sorry ur going through this. As someone who has been in ur shoes, I am completely aware of ur pain. I have also had thoughts of suicide when in my stressful environment, but am proud to say that I am still here & hopefully am now able to help u. What I did when living with my mom was kept myself busy, and out of her way.  Make it to where you do not need her as much as you do now. If when you do become involved with activities or a job, try to find ur own ride home, instead of asking her to come get you. If you can save ur money so that when u r 18, u can get ur own car, in ur own name. And when college approaches go away to school, and live on campus, she might try to tell u that u cant do it, but if ur 18, ur an adult.  Just try not to depend on her so much, that way you decrease your interaction with her. You can do it! I did, and it was the best burden I ever lifted off of myself. To this day when I see my mom, it reminds me off the bad times, but luckily I dont live w her, so I dont have to deal with the drama.

Answer 6

Communication is the key to every successful relationship. Sit down and have a serious talk with her and ask her to just listen. Don't begin by lashing out at her and yelling at her. Speak in a serious tone and tell her what you are feeling. I know what you mean, I felt the same way about my mom when I was a teen. Just know that your teenage years are the hardest and they will pass. Try to please her even if you don't want to, and she will see that you mean well. If she yells at you for doing it wrong, ask her how she wants it. Try doing nice things for her even when she didn't ask you to. She will turn around and realize that you respect her. Hopefully that way she will do the same for you.

Answer 7

Where is your father?  If he's not around do you have anyone else you can talk to? I would suggest trying to tell her that you want there to be peace and explain to her how you are feeling.  If you are feeling so depressed ask her to take you to the doctor so he/she can evaluate you.  Tell her you want to solve the problem and have a good relationship.  I am so sorry that you feel this way.  Try to talk to someone at school...

Answer 8

I'm not just a Mom, I'm also a 911 dispatcher.    There is help out there --  please don't kill yourself.  Things must seem unbearable, but don't give up on yourself, or your mom.  

As a Mom- we try to keep things calm, but we are just as scared of failure as you are. (We try to hide that)

Please, please  -call your local suicide hotline,  or the National Suicide Hotline ( 1-800-273-TALK). They are there 24/7, and will help you --  you need to talk to someone ASAP.  Your mom probably does not realize what you are going through.  

Dispatcher -- Please DON"T DO ANYTHING TO YOURSELF.   Call 911 -  dispatchers are trained to help. They can guide you to counseling.  

One of the hardest, most heart wrenching calls we get are teen suicides - even the toughest, most professional dispatcher cries  on those.