I just can't take it anymore?!?

Question

I'm 13, 5'2ish, and 150 pounds. I can't take it anymore!!! When I see people on here asking if their fat when they AREN'T, when I see people in magazines, when I see the girls at school, when I know that I weigh more than my 16 year old sister and most celebrities, I want to just rip my hair out!!! I can't take it!!!!!! I hate myself! I'm a size XXL! I have huge hips, legs, arms, thighs, and stomach! I have size 9 feet which make me look even weirder! When I work out on the treadmill at 5 mph for 20 minutes- knowing I want to do two hours- I can't take it!!!! I HATE MYSELF!!! NO one understands! There aren't any kids my age that are this fat! No one! IS THERE ANYONE LIKE ME?!?!! HELP! I need someone like me to talk to!!!!

Answer 1

uhm youre not fat. youre a little overweight (a little chubby). i see 13 year olds that are like 200+ pounds. all you have to do is get into some exercise and eat minimally for like 2 weeks...if youre dedicated you should be normal weight by then.

i keep my weight because i only eat when im starving and my meals mainly consist of bread..bread..bread..and yeah..bread. you should try bread, its pretty good

Answer 2

Relax, it's just your body type. There are a lot of people out there, who have your body type, which is meso/endomorphic. The "ideal" body type portrayed in the media is ectomorphic, which is less than 5% of the US population. You're not even that fat- there are kids your age who are really obese(and I don't mean this in a mean way.) Fat is not ugly- you just have to accept yourself for the way you are. There are people out there like you. You're just big-boned, which is great because it means you can be good at sports, unlike small boned people who are physically weak and need to put in more effort. People who ask others if they're too fat/thin just want attention, in my opinion. Everybody is different. There is no "perfect" body. Don't hate yourself for who you are, because weight doesn't matter and people who care too much about what they way have low self-esteem. People who judge others by their weight are shallow- not worth being friends with. Exercise for good health, not to look good. Ultimately it's not what you weigh or what you look like- it's WHO you are inside.  

Answer 3

Hello! First Of All Id Like To Say There Are Many People Like You! Dont Worry! I know what you're going through! I used to be just like you. I was 5'5 & 12 yrs old (almost 13) & Im going to 7th Grade, and i USED to weigh:155 lbs! I HATED myself! Now Im:

- Im 5'5

- Im going to 7th grade

- Im turning 13 soon

- I Now Weigh: 139.8 pounds!

(I lost 16 pounds in 2 months so far!) . My BodyShape Is: Normal! I Look Thin Now! :-] .

Im A Size Large Now! I Sometimes wear a Medium! I Now Walk With Confidence & You Can Too! You Know What ... Id LOVE to help you out, My Email Is: [e-mail] . Please Message Me Soon! Thanks. *Bye.* ☆

Answer 4

I know how you feel... except I'm not a girl and I know being a girl that's overweight is a lot more socially unacceptable (unfortunately).

First off, you need to respect yourself before you can get anyone to respect you. If you are confident and happy with yourself, that's the vibe you'll be putting out and other people will feel the same about you. If you just did that, you would be happier and not as terrified about your weight.

I'm fat, I've been fat all my life, but I've learned to accept that and still live happily. It took me a while, but I finally realized it's not all about how you look on the outside. There were plenty of good-looking guys and girls who are complete a******s or failures at life. They are not happy either -- and it's not because of their weight.

Hopefully you understand what I'm trying to say... Love yourself FIRST! s***w EVERYONE ELSE!

Now, let's work on that weight....

It's going to take some time. You can't just expect in one week to be model quality. You have to earn this. If you're not ready to earn this. Do whatever you have to do to get yourself motivated.

One thing I've learned with dieting -- you have to be pumped up to do it. For me, this took some coworkers doing the same thing and keeping track of my progress. Why? I don't know. But I kept myself motivated because I wanted to show my coworkers positive results rather than negative results and me feeling bad.

So if you're ready, here's what you do, and you MUST stick to it:

1) Be Active! Find something that you like to do where you can get some exercise at the same time. Do you like any sports? Walking, Biking, Swimming, Rollerblading??? Find something you like to do and do it at least 4 times a week for 30 minutes or longer.

2) Stop eating JUNK FOOD! Don't eat: Fried Food, Fast Food, Chocolate or Candy. Find healthy things that you like and eat five times a day. Breakfast, Snack, Lunch, Snack, Dinner. For the snacks eat some fruit or veggies or something low in calories.

3) Drink lots and lots of water! Drink ONLY water -- not soda.

Do this and you will start being more healthy -- I guarantee it.

Do you have any friends who would exercise with you -- or be like a weight-loss buddy? A companion will help keep you motivated.

Good luck... You can do it. If you want it bad enough.

Answer 5

First off you are only about 20 pounds overweight.  Secondly, why do you only do 20 minutes on the treadmill?  You have to be determined and have some will power.  I've wanted to quit many times before I should but I just keep pushing myself and I tell myself I'm going to do it no matter what.  You have to be strong mentally.  Don't give up.  You won't be fat for long if you do more cardio everyday and watch what you eat.  No junk food or sodas.  Just eat good healthful food in moderation.

Answer 6

Okay, i am 11 and a half, 5'4 almost 5'5 and weigh 132-133, i just got back from mexico, and  thought i would have gained 10 pounds, and actually lost 5 or 6 pounds!  it is simple, don't have snacks throughout the day, and only have dessert a couple times a week.  i feel that i have a fat stomach, but my mom always says that it will go down when i get my first period.  yah right!  the favorite thing about my body is my legs, and that is what i get complimented on.  all you have to do is think about the positive things on your body, and not the negatives.  when i was seven years old, and i month, i weighed 93 pounds, and now i have grown in to my body.  you are only 13, you will grow into your body when you get taller and a are done with puberty.  have u gotten your period yet?  that might be a factor.

Answer 7

you can talk to me anytime i used to be the fat girl ! before i decided to change that in grade 8 and i lost 20 pounds by eating healthier and exercising more! So you can email me anytime if you like want to talk I'm 15 just to let you know. But the best thing you can do is love yourself.

Answer 8

Honey you are not the only one. There are lots of kids with the same problem. I know it's hard... kids in school can be cruel. But believe me, I do understand you, I know how mortifying it can be... I'm a recovering anorexic myself. So I asure you I know how it feels. And maybe you can't see it now, but in time you'll see that (as cliche as it may sound) what's inside is what really matters. And there's more to life than being thin.

If you want to lose weight, do it to be healthier... And do it for yourself, not for what others might say. And please, ask for help, dont try to do it alone. Please have somebody older to guide you, and dont do anything drastic as I did cause you dont get happier that way.

Dont be sad... As you become older things will get easier. You're 13!!! You should not be worrying about being fat! You should be happy!!

I'm 20 now... But even though I'm a older than you, I can help. So please send me an e-mail if you ever need to talk ([e-mail])

Be happy kid

Caro

Answer 9

whoa whoa whoa, slow down! listen, i may not be exactly like you, but i do know EXACTLY how you feel.  i've been wearing size 8 shoes since i was 11 years old! i've always felt bigger than people around me, although my weight's fluctuated a lot since i was 13. my best friend in middle school was a stick and so was her sister and i was around them all the time. it also didn't help that they were REALLY pretty. i kind of drifted apart from them, but now i'm in high school and my best friend now is a stick!!!!! it's unavoidable though, skinny people are everywhere. confidence is the key. what makes these people so much better than you? they're skinny--so what?!?!?! you need to stop focusing on the negatives and really concentrate on what makes YOU amazing. i don't know you, but i know that everyone has something special. i know it sounds cheesy but it's true.  believe me, confidence makes a HUGE difference in how you feel and how you perceive things.

and if you really want to lose weight, just make some small changes. like limit junk food, take walks, maybe join a sport. it really doesn't take much. i know people make it seem like some impossible feat, but that's only because they want dramatic results fast.

if you want to talk, email me.

Answer 10

Relax. There are millions of people going through the same thing. I too am struggling with trying to lose weight. Just work out everyday or at least 5x a week and eat as healthy as you can. Dont worry, if you try really hard you will lose the weight, it isnt impossible. Try to incease your time on the treadmil gradually.  

Answer 11

First you have to realize that there are lots of people like you. Please don't beat yourself up over this. Talking to a therapist would be a good idea for you, because it sounds like the problem is more to do with your self-esteem than your weight.

Then, it would be a good idea for you to try to do things to make yourself healthier. Talk to your doctor about what your goal weight should be. Remember that at 13, many girls are chubby because your body gains weight before it has a growth spurt. It is not uncommon to gain a bit before you start getting taller, so a drastic diet plan probably isn't for you. But you should be exercising and eating healthily - not just because you're overweight, but because not doing so isn't good for you. EVERYONE should be getting at least a half hour of exercise a day and eating a healthy, balanced diet rich in fruits, vegetables, and proteins. If your family eats a lot of meats such as pork and beef, ask them to help you out by cooking lower-fat alternatives like chicken and fish. Eat fruits and veggies as snacks, rather than junk food. Avoid any sugary drinks like soda and juice, and stick to water and iced tea (make it yourself without the sugar). Pack a lunch rather than buying one at school, and stick to things like whole grain-bread sandwiches, fruit, and nuts.

With some effort, you will be able to reduce your weight and feel a lot better about yourself. Talk to your parents about how you feel. If they are overweight, as well, perhaps the whole family could decide to make some healthier lifestyle changes. That means no more microwave meals or stops to McDonalds. Healthy, wholesome food and an active lifestyle is the place to start. Good luck!  

Answer 12

Good! You are no so sick of it that you will do something about it! You see this is the point where most people decide to diet. They are sooooo sick of loathing and being depressed of their body that they decide to change it. And just eat 500 less calories a day and try to be on the treadmill for at least 30 minutes a day. Eat healthy and tell your parents that you are trying to diet and to make lower calorie and healthier foods for you. I have a best friend who is awesome! I love her! she has the best personality and shes about to turn 13-- shes about 4,9 but she is really getting to be big. She is going through the same thing as you. I need your help-- should I try to help her before she gets obese and very unhealthy or do I let it be?