I just can't take it anymore!?

Question

My boyfriend & I have a 6yr old daughter, he has another 6yr old girl w/someone else who he cheated on me with for a long time. I put my daughter in a school that was close to my house/job. My boyfriend wanted his babymama to put their kid in the same school with my daugther cause he didn't like the neighborhood where she was going to put their kid. I don't agree with it, but there is not much I can say without sounding like a vitch, so I was like I guess whatever. Now, all that's doing is causing me & only me problems because 1) he is the one that drops off my daughter cause I'm at work, so he sees that babymama maybe not everyday, but everyweek 2) Now the babymama has been dropping her kid off at my house with my boyfriend cause she's starting work earlier while I'm already at work 3)There is a field trip this week which I can't go to cause the teacher let the babymama go & I guess she thinks that only one of us can go at a time since they are sisters, not fair at all What can I do?

Answer 1

The teacher is not being fair to you since they are sisters. I would talk to the principle about it. I wouldn't punish your boyfriend for taking his other child to school. He made a mistake cheating on you and I think you are very strong for taking him back after what he did, but at least he is being a man and taking care of both children. As long as the other woman is just dropping of her child then everything should be ok.

Answer 2

I wouldn't stay with someone who cheated on me in the first place but I guess you three would just have to try living peacefully and don't let the kids know there is anything wrong. Then they might get to thinking they're doing something wrong.

Answer 3

Go to the school and tell them you have nothing to do with the other child!!!! You are allowed to go with your daughter. They can't stop You. Go to the teacher and tell her what happened. She will probly understand your situation.

Answer 4

I agree with Crystal, first you need to talk to the teacher and let her know the situation and tell her that if your daughter is going you should be allowed to go too - as you are not the mother of both - and for the rest you need to chill. You have chosen to stay with this man, even though he cheated on you - and he has a baby with this other woman. Unfortunately, your choice to keep him means you also are keeping his child (at least to a small extent) as he is 1/2 responsible for his other child.

I do understand your frustration, I do and I don't mean to sound cold. But it is time you realize you are the bigger person here... and this is a child you are complaining about. She has an opportunity to go to a better school based on where her father lives - what would be the alternative... she should have to go to the crappy school just because her parents can't keep it in their pants 6 yrs ago and your bf was a dog? Nope. Sorry, it doesn't work like that. In fact, you should be happy your bf is still around and not only there for you and your baby but a man that while he made mistakes at least is trying to hold up to his responsibility.

If you feel untrusting with him being around her, I think you need to look at the reasons as to why you feel this way. If he has not earned your trust back yet, it is time for some counseling (it's probably needed anyway) or you need to look at the relationship and really sort out if it is the best for you both.

Answer 5

dump you boyfriend