I just disovered that my sis in law is a pedophile? how should i react?

Question

I found out that my sis in law, when she was a barmaid and in her 20's was shagging 2 15 yr old boys ( one of them being my brother). she got pregnant and the child ( my niece) was born 2 months after my brothers birthday. The other boy died in tragic accident. anyways. my bro moved in with her when he was 15, he dropped out of school /home to be with her.

i dont have anything to do with them. but i can help but wonder, should i report her to the nursing board. ( she trained as a nurse, i did not know this until recently)

I know he knocks her about and i think he hits the kids as well. they seem like disturbed bunch.

oh and my brother threatned to hit me, if i mentioned his name in therapy sessions ( I am a recovering anorexic)

he is genreally abusive and once threatned to send my niece who is now a teenage around to beat me up ( no joke). I asked him if she worked out her mum was a pedo, and he went berzerk and broke into my house to beat me up.

Answer 1

Having seen your previous questions, am with Enlightened.

Answer 2

ok ive dealt with this issue  

i had a friend who was 14 a male and his mum kicked him out ,so he came to stay with me and my fella im a bit older

anyway this friend then slept with 3 women on the estate that i lived 2 were on their twentys and the third was 32 his mum and i found out what had happened and she called the police oddly only the 32 year old was charged and is now on a register but the funny thing is im convinced that this boy knew what he was up to ,but this does not excuse these womens actions ,i do know that the women who was charged has had her life ruined because of this and cant even tell her family whats happened as they will disown her .also she has a fertility issue but can never adopt or foster any kids not even babys so its a huge decision to make

do you hate her enough to destroy her life forever cos thats what will happen   it sounds to me like she has suffered enough at the hands of your brothers abuse id be more likely to ring the social services and get help for the kids  hope this helps c x

Answer 3

the time to take an action was 15 years ago.  What do you expect anyone to do about a relationship between two now-adults who've chosen to stay together for the past 15 years?  report her to the nursing board for what?  you'll only make yourself look like a fool.  let it go - they're grown ups now.

Answer 4

What the h**l was your brother doing at a bar when he was 15? Not to be rude but it sounds like you want to do this for revenge.

Answer 5

If you think your nephews and neices are in danger, that he or she is phyically or sexually abusing them, you must act now and contact the authorities.

xx

Answer 6

unless you know the kids are in immediate danger, stay out of it.

Answer 7

If he hurts the kids call the police otherwise stay out of it for ur safety

Answer 8

This is a seriously hard situation you are in, I completely see your point on this considering everything they have both done!They haven't exactly built a good case for themselves.

If you want to go to the police you should, I cant tell you whether or not you should or shouldn't.

You could call the police anonymously and tell them all the details they would need to know and at least then your brother couldn't blame you as he would never be told who placed the call!

good luck with this as its not the easiest situation to be in!

Answer 9

Are you taking the p*** out of us?

Answer 10

I'd grass her in.

Phone the police and tell them the full story, youre brother was abused by her and thats why he is lashing out :-( xx

Answer 11

Cassius, is that you?

Great new identity.  Just signed on today with it.

Nice fake question.  How long did it take you to think it up?

Answer 12

Ditch your family and move away, and forget about reporting your sister in law to the police. Stick at your therapy, as it's clear there are real issues within yourself and your family, and concentrate on making a good and decent life for yourself.