I just don't know what to do anymore.?

Question

I'm so depressed over my body, family, friends, appearance, and pretty much everything in my life.

I feel like I'm so fat, and can't look good in anything. I'm 5 foot 6 and 127 pounds.

Nothing I try on looks the way I want it to.

I feel fine about the upper body, but my legs and butt seem so fat.

My mom doesn't understand. She just drops me off at the mall and gets mad when I don't buy any pants.

I just feel so upset because everywhere I look, everyone seems skinnier than me.

Then there's my face. I have pretty eyes...but my skin is very pasty and freckly and my hair is an ugly shade of red and my forehead is huge.

I photograph horribly and am always ashamed of my school picture and any picture for that matter.

It doesn't help that my friends don't ever seem to include me anymore.

They all went to the movies on friday and didn't invite me.

They have parties and don't invite me, my best friend never talks to me and my parents are always like "why don't you invite a friend over?" and I just think about how I don't have anyone to invite over.

I don't know who else to be friends with...my group of friends is the group of the school that'll include anyone (but me I guess.)

Everyone else is skinny and popular and stylish and I just don't fit in with them; or they're scary and not the type of people I want to be around (such as trouble makers and the "scene" people).

My mom is really mean to me and doesn't even try to understand how upset I am.

I love my dad, but he has to work a lot.

Teenagers are so mean and I hate going to junior high (I'm 14 - 9th grade which is the last year of jr. high).

What should I do?

I've always been the type of person who everybody is jealous of, because I'm the top of the class and I'm good at sports and theatre, but I just don't even feel like living right now.

I would never commit suicide, and I'm very much into God, but I kind of wish something would happen to me, like I'd get run over and die.

Please give me some words of guidance.

I just don't know what to do anymore.

Answer 1

Find someone to talk to, if you are in to God..do you go to church? Talk to the youth minister or something and just say you really need a friend and someone to talk to and maybe they could help you out.  I find that if I find a person that will listen I can usually talk through a lot of my problems and when I'm talking I usually realize that some are stupid and some aren't and sometimes even see things I can do to fix them as I talk without the other person really having to say or do much but listen.

GOOD LUCK!  And don't worry things will get better, I had days like that..I'm in college now and I still have days like that you just have to know that there will soon be an amazing day that will make all those crappy ones worth it cause then you can appreciate the good.  :)  CHEER UP!

Answer 2

First off, you're at a great weight- most people would kill for that size. As far as your social life- don't assume people are going to ask you to go somewhere- set something up yourself. Say, hey friday let's go to the movies- who's in? Once you start initiating plans, your friends will get back on track with you. Maybe you've kind of been distant unknowingly because you seem to be going through so much. It always gets better, as long as you make an effort. They probably aren't trying to be mean, they just maybe get the feeling you don't want to do anything. Cheer up, and get active! Good luck

Answer 3

I wish I could tell you that you are exaggerating and that it's all in your head but I went through it so I know what it's like.  Being a teenager is the worst.  I was so ugly and so self-conscious.  My friends stopped liking me.  The main difference is that my mom has always been nice to me.

The best advice I can give you is to focus on the fact that you will not be in junior high or high school h**l forever.  Believe me.  Once you are in college things will be different.  You will start liking yourself more and then others will like you, too.  

Try not to worry about your looks or being fat.  Seriously, everyone else is too worried about their looks and their fat.  Jeans can hide a lot.

Try to learn more about yourself and what you like and don't worry so much about the others.

Answer 4

Aw, Sweetie, things will get better. Believe it or not. You are at that hard age when turmoil and hormones are causing havoc in you. First of all, you are not fat. Second of all, if you are good at sports then you must be fit and healthy. There is no greater turn on than good health. Red hair is beautiful. Try looking at the famous actresses with red hair and copy them as far as make up and style. Or just create your own style!

If you don't soon feel better, ask your mom to take you to the doctor so you can talk about how upset you are. Also, it's very possible and even highly likely that you do not look the way you think you do. I don't know any ugly 14 year olds. Not one.

If you can't get over being upset by your appearance, check into body dysmorphic disorder. People who have that can be helped to feel better about themselves. You are probably a gorgeous young woman who is just lacking confidence right now.

I hope you soon feel better. Once you feel better, everything will improve for you.

Answer 5

Wow cmon, thats kind of dumb stop getting down there are so many who have it worse then crying over their bodys...stop being ignorant and shut the **** up this is awful why would you care so much about your body look at someother peoples problems who have seriouse **** going on like someone whos parents beat them or do drugs and are alcholics stop feeling pity for yourself.....

Answer 6

You are a perfectly normal weight for your age. A lot of girls & women  haves body image issues too.  Talk to your dad, or an adult you trust. Keep the grades up and taking part in theater and sports. It is really hard being your age. You will get through this. Pray too, that will help.