I just dont know what to do :/?

Question

Right well, im 13 and my sister is 14.

She' very argumentative and is always answering back to our parents and she did so earlier leaving her (my sister) in a terrible mood. After our mum had gone to work i tried talking to my sister about what had happened earlier (bearing in mind she made my mum cry.) We were eating our dinner when i asked her and she started saying things like: When she went out she didnt get enough money and things well after a little while she just blew and threw her fork across the kitchen and threw her food in our garden which is were i have been for the last 20 minutes; cleaning up after her so she didnt get caught out (basically to stop another argument.)

I dont know what to do anymore because im always stuck in the middle of these arguments and clearing things up so my sister doesnt get caughtand whenever i try to talk to my sister about she always reacts terribly - nearly always throwing things and pulling things down. Im now scared of my sister.

Does anybody know what i can do ?

thanks :(

Answer 1

I'm sorry to tell you, but this is all completely and utterly normal.

I'm just like that. I'm 15 years old and I fight with my mom continuously. This is nature, it's what girls do especially when it's their mom's. You might feel like you don't ever want to wind up like your sister, I'm sure you won't be completely.. but at some point you will and you will understand. When you're her age and mine, well you have these hormone changes and you start to blame things on your mom because well something has to do with them being of the same s*x and them being closer to you because of that. It's hard to explain, but things really work out like this. I do the same thing, but no violence intended. Just tell your sister to cut down on the too dramatic scene kind of thing with like the dinner in the garden as such. The arguing will eventually get better in time because she's growing up, I know this.. trust me. But you're just going to have to let them be, it's something one learns on their own. Stop cleaning up for your sister no matter how much you want to stop this, it won't stop. It something your family will have to deal with. We all go through it.

Answer 2

I suggest you take a step back and let them deal with it between themselves. You're too young to have this as your issue and hiding your sister's behaviour may make your mum think it's less of a problem than it is.

Speak to your mum yourself and just tell her you're worried about the situation and you feel like you're stuck in the middle.

Answer 3

stand up for yourself! you're not you sis' slave , so show her! eventually she is gonna realize her mistake. trust me, i used to be quite a tantrum thrower some years ago, which was not very normal for my age. so one evening i sat down and saw things from the wider perspective: who was i ? the screaming girl who didnt achieve anything by doing that. and thats when i stopped alltogether. and this is what is gonna happen to your sister. be patient...realizations like that can take years to happen. the important thing is that you dont give in, hold your head high!

Answer 4

stop clearing up after her.

if she is being a shithead, then let her get into trouble.

coz really soon ur mum is gonna get fed up and ur sister will be punished.

don't get caught in the middle. AVIOD IT!

ur just making life hard for urself.

gd luck....=)

becca

Answer 5

I have a 14 year old sister like that. Sometimes she can be really stubborn and argumentative. Dad just says that she is going through a stage in her life, and it's expected for her to be like that. She used to complain that she never got what she wanted when we would go shopping, so we suggested for her to get a job. She now works casually at a Thai restraunt, earning close to $60 dollars a week. I have noticed that she has calmed down a lot, and she rarely complains about needs for new clothes and gifts, simply because she can buy them herself. Right now she is saving for a puppy dog, and she seems pleased about her accomplishments. Maybe your sister could also benefit from a part time job, as she would be able to appreciate what your mother does for you guys. Try suggesting the idea to her. A job would teach discipline, and it would make great chat for her, and others.  

Answer 6

stop being a door mat and doing everything for your sister and kick her ***

Answer 7

hun i wouldnt do it

if your sister wants to get on like a kid let her me and my sister were the same and to this day shes still like that with my mum and dad shes 25 with two kids of her own she needs to know what shes doing is childish let her take the blame leave her to it and get on with your life with your mum  

Answer 8

Sounds like your sister has serious behavioural problems..Stop clearing up after her,even though you do it to save further upset. Let her get caught,maybe then your mother will consider getting her some help.................

Answer 9

Just don't do it, she was the one who acted immature, she should be getting in trouble for it...