I just dont understand, please help?

Question

You know how girls can get changed infront of girls with no problem? well i cant. i am very insecure about myself so when my mom is showing me something to try on, i ask her if she could step out while i change and she gets so shocked every time. we are very close but for some reason, when it comes to changing infromt of her, she acts all different and she makes me cry sometimes ( she doesnt know it) i have explained to her that im insecr\ure about myself and i dont like my body and she told me she understands, but after that talk, she just kept doing the same thing. she always says " Oh you have GOT to be kidding me! Im your mother for petes sakes!" and when she says that, it embarrasses me. im not fat at all but im also not skinny. im in the middle. im a curvy girl, so when everyone thinks i look " hot " and they say " look at your curves girl! i wish i had them" and all that stuff, instead of it making me happy, it makes me sad. because, even though i do love my curves, i hate how my body looks. i want to be thinner im doing exerscise and eating healthy already, so please dont tell me to do that. and also, please dont say " try to feel comfortable about your body. dont be so hard on yourself. accept your body the way it is" well, i have tried but as much as everyone would like to believe that people actualy " accept " their bodies, they really dont. everyone wants to change somehow, exept the people who think they are " perfect". i dont know what to do. i have already spoken to her about it and she says she understands, and then when i ask her to leave, she makes fun of me and says " come on,im your mother your being ridiculous" i hate when she does that. i dont know wut to do. please please please help!

Answer 1

Well it already sounds like you're taking the necessary steps to change what you don't like about yourself.

The thing is...even if you were happy with your body (and you do get there eventually, or at least I did) you still may not like for random people to see you naked, even your mom. I was very shy even when my body was pretty rocking...got a little extra I'm trying to get rid of now too, btw. So regardless, I don't like undressing in front of people at all...even when I like my body. It's a private thing. You've already explained to your mother that you don't like it. The next time she makes fun of you tell her what you think. Say mom, are you trying to make me cry and feel even worse than I do now? If you say things like that very pointedly, she will stop.

She's only thinking of herself and her feelings right now, not yours. If you're completely honest with her, she'll stop saying those things.