I just found out I'm pregnant?

Question

I have done two Clear-blue home pregnancy test, and both test has been positive. I am one week overdue on my menstrual cycle.

Few things I would like to find out though:

How do I tell my ex he is the father of my baby? - we had a friends with benefits deal

I'm having spotting... the colour is dark red/brown, and i only see it when i go to the loo, and have to wipe. Is it dangerous? No abdominal pains.

Answer 1

Well it shouldn't come as too much of a shock to him as he wasn't "wrapping it up".. Just bite the bullet, and tell him straight, i am pregnant - you are the father.

Implantation bleeding is the general feeling with your spotting, though i have no experience of this myself, so if you really want to set your mind at ease then going to the doctors just for a check would be a good thing..

Good luck to you huni.. xx

Answer 2

It is always best during pregnancy to go and see a doctor with ANY bleeding "down there". As people said, it is probably just implantation bleeding, but it could also be a sign of problems such as miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy. So yeah, goto see your doctor or midwife just to be sure whenever you experience any bleeding during pregnancy.

As for your baby's father... Just sit him down and tell him. Its his responsibility as well so you should not feel as if you have done anything wrong. As the saying goes - It takes two to tango.

Answer 3

you just plainly tell him him he is the father, if he doesn't wish to accept the fact he wasn't worth it.

the spotting could be coming from Implantation bleeding but to be on the safe side I'd make an appointment with my doctor as soon as possible

congrats and good luck.

Answer 4

Congratulations.Early staining does occur quite frequently. SEE YOUR DOCTOR  DON"T WAIT

Answer 5

I would see a doctor about the bleeding.  but it probably isn't any big deal.  I had some and now I'm 20 weeks pg. with a girl!

Answer 6

Before you tell him go to the doctor and get a confirmation-while you probably are its always good to get the blood test to back up the at home versions.

Decide what you want to tell him and what you are going to need/want him to do. If you are planning on having the child that is *your* decision-don't let him guilt you into doing something different.

If you are just telling him as an FYI go ahead but be prepared for him to be upset (just in case). It is a big shock to most guys (esp. if you were using birth control religiously).

If you are going to ask him for help finacially or otherwise make sure you have a clear idea in your head before talking to him. There is nothing worse in these situations than "winging" it and ending up in a fight over issues you didn't anticipate.

Preperation is everything-don't hold off too long but prepare yourself for all his questions and reactions.

Good luck!

Answer 7

You could get abortion, Although it souds horrible its much better than giving to Adoption. If you do, This person will never know there mother.

Go along, Ring him.

Answer 8

congrats and good luck

Answer 9

by ex, do you mean ex husband or ex boyfriend?

Before you tell him anything, make an appt. with your doctor to be 100% positive you're pregnant.

Answer 10

I was in the same situation... We broke up but still loved eachother and we won't officially together when i got prengant. We have had our share of arguements since but, we are back together and great now!! you need to tell him you are pregnant whether you are scared or not. or whether your afraid of his reaction.  He needs to know as has every right to since its his baby too.  if he wants to take on the responsibility then great!! more power to him for being a father.. if not, thumbs down to him and you should get child support.. either way i hope things work out for you guys as it did in my situation...as far as the spotting no worries i had that too but just be sure you mention it to your dr. im sure its fine as long as you are not having abdominal pain along with it.  Your dr. will tell you you are fine, but its nice to hear it from the dr. first for reassurance!!

Answer 11

Wow - I also just found out I'm pregnant, using 2 clear blue tests, and my period is a week and a half late.

We're twins - ha just kidding.

Luckily I happen to be married, so it was no issue for me, but you may want to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. I hope it works out for you! Good luck!

Answer 12

congrats!

with regards to telling your ex, you ill just have to bite the bullet and tell him, not sure what you mean by the friends with benfits?

Spotting i think is normal, esp if it is brown, as you are near the time of your period- i had this just after i found out i am pregnant (I am 7 weeks, and found out 3 days overdue). It is probably the embryo implanting in your uterus.

If it turns bright red, and you get really bad cramps, then go the the docs/hospital as it could be a miscarriage.

Good luck!! x

Answer 13

spotting could be a sign something is wrong! If you get any shoulder pains go right to hosp! It may be eptopic!

Answer 14

I would go to the doctor first before anything else since you have some spotting.

Answer 15

No its implantation bleeding can't help with the other thing, my guess is if it was a friends with benefits thing u may be looking at raising the child alone  

Answer 16

Well, Congrats to you! First thing you just need to come out and say it to your ex. Explain that you didnt mean for this to happen. are you planning on asking him for financial help? be prepared for him to freak out a little. and the spotting is ok, as long as it's not heavy and/or with heavy cramps.