I just found out that My 16 year old twin sons turned down an invitation to a party ?

Question

because they found out that the kid having the party, that his parents wouldnt let him invite any of the black or spanish kids that are on their football team...do I stay out of it, call the parents...have another party for the team the next night and invite everyone?

Answer 1

Don't plan anything until your sons approve.

Answer 2

Have a party inviting everyone, but ask your sons first.

Answer 3

do you mean hispanic kids?

Answer 4

Good for them, and good for you, that you obviously instilled values in them.  (I like what I see of you).

I think.. since they had the maturity to do the right thing, that they probably have the capacity to pass their reason on to the kid.  I honestly would LOVE to speak my mind to the parents, but I don't know that they would even hear what you are saying.

Come to think of it.. what do THEY feel is a good thing to do?  

Confronting may escalate things.  

Answer 5

First tell your sons they did good! I mean it shows what you taught them when they realize unfairness to other people. I think you should speak out your mind and confront the parents for their prejudice attitudes that they are having. And then you should throw another party for the others kid on the team and invite EVERYONE. I think that if those parents allow their son to be on the football team with these they should allow their son to be associate with these same people.

Answer 6

Congratulate your sons! They did the right thing, because that is so wrong that no blacks or hispanics were invited. I don't think they need a pitty party though. If I wasn't invited somewhere just because I'm black, I wouldn't want a pitty party the next day. I would at least confront the parents. I mean, what's wrong with everyone else on the team that isn't white? What kind of people are like that in this day and age - that is so messed up! Do what you feel is right. Don't get into a fight. I'd just ask them why the other guys couldn't be invited.

Answer 7

i say dont get into your sons business that much.

if u want to throw a party then go ahead make sure your sons are okay with it and at the party you stay away from them.

Answer 8

Yes! You should Sooooo host a party for the entire team! But don't talk to the parents of the kid, they might like kill you or something. Maybe not that drastic, but still. Stay out. :) Sounds like a great plan! Go Momma!!! :)

Answer 9

Congratulate yourself on raising two really good kids. Do not call the parents. Stay out of it. Maybe have a party in the next week or two. The next night could be seen as childish even if you don't mean it that way.

Answer 10

I think your kids did the right thing by taking a stand like that...good for them! I would definitely have a party for everyone, including the kid with the racist parents. We don't always share the same values as our family members and it's unfair to judge as such.  

Answer 11

Stay out of it.

You should be proud of your sons though.

They sound like excellent young men.

Answer 12

stay out of it

Answer 13

Just do another party that includes everyone. I find that so mean not to invite people because of their skin color.. Your sons were absolutely right in not going

Answer 14

I would certainly be throwing a party for all the kids.  I don't know what good calling the other parents would do.  You're unlikely to change a racist's prejudice over the phone.  But throwing an inclusive party will definitely send a message, and will aid team spirit a lot more than the exclusivist party the other parents plan.

Answer 15

Don't get involved. You'll just embarrass your sons and there's nothing you can really do. If talking is all you want to accomplish; do so if your sons say it's okay. Personally, I wouldn't want to talk to someone who I knew thought like that. Congrats for raising such excellent boys =]

Answer 16

have everyone to a party accept the one kid who wont invite black or spanish kids. but find out if its the parents or the kid whos fault it is first.

Answer 17

i'd say have a party 4 every1 but dont tell ur sons the reason y. but u should b proud of them!!!!!!!!! oh and don't try talking 2 the parents, not much can change thier mind.

Answer 18

Unfortunately, you can't do anything about that.  I would have a get together in a couple of weeks so it doesn't look obvious as to what you are doing.  I commend your boys for what they did.  Very awesome.

Answer 19

I would say have a party and invite EVERYONE (including the kid having the party) on the football team

and call the parents to ask why arent they inviting colored kids

Answer 20

Stay out of it -- and be proud of your sons for taking a stand against something that they found rude and objectionable!   At some point, there will be an opportunity to have another party -- but don't have one right now just to make a point and rub their noses in it.  

It's a private party and they have a right to invite whomever they like, no matter whose feelings they might hurt.  However, it's sad to think that such things matter to them at a kid's party :-(

Answer 21

Oh, you should SO have a party for everyone. Its not fun to be left out just because of race.