I just found out that im pregnat, what do i do now??

Question

I put up a question a couple days ago asking how should i tell my mom my dad raped me, my friend and i went to the store and bought a pregnancy test, I took 6 of them and they all came out possitive. and now i am really scared becuse school starts in 2 weeks and im going to be a ninth grader!

Answer 1

It is normal to be scared in a situation like yours.  But you don't have to go through this alone!  Call 1-800-395-HELP, it's free and confidential, and talk out your feelings with a counselor.  She'll let you know what resources are available in your area.

<3 Kelsey

Answer 2

tell you mum, and then go to the doctors, the baby could be deformed when born due the close dna, i know some poeple are strongly against abortions but in you surcamstances it's a good option. also make shure to inform police about being raped.

Answer 3

i may be pregnant also an unknown man raped and threatend me im horryfiend plus im going to 7th grade and ill be humilliated....i am scared also my mommy doesnt know...help me...i dont know what to do....my boyfriend will think i cheated on him and that im a sol**!  =(

Answer 4

Wowww. That's really effed up of your dad. If you haven't already you need to tell your mom your dad raped you. It is very important to tell her so she can do something and get him farrr away from you. Because that really iisnt someone you shoukd be around. If you are worrried telling your mom is gonna get you in teouble..it really won't. Its not your fault. There was/is nothing you can do about it. And as far as the baby goes. You need to see a doctor and talk tonyour mom asap. More than likly your baby is going to be very difformed because your so closely related to your dad. And an abortion might be your best bet. Even though a lot of people say its soo wrong.. In your case its really really not. You were raped by your father. Its not in anyway your fault you got pregnant so you have every right to make that choice. You need to get this taken care of as soon as you can. I wouldn't go around tellingg all your friends unless you want every one from school to know. If you need some one to talk to try talking to your mom or a doctor or a therapist. Good luck I hope your okay and that you get everything taken care of.

Answer 5

oh,that's terrible! :(

tell your mother NOW.

also,i suggest getting an abortion. the baby will be seriously deformed,and it will have mental problems. it would be best for the baby if you got an abortion.

Answer 6

something similar happened to me (i was raped, got pregnant) and i'm 15. i know it's really scary, but you need to tell your mom. and whether you keep the baby is up to you. i'm gonna have mine and give it up for adoption, and besides. she's your mom. she'll be there for you. best of luck

Answer 7

oh girl u poor thing u need to tell ur mum and if i was u i would get an abortion..babies r ment to be a happy time not one filled wif misery take care and hope ur life turns out ok

Answer 8

There is a possibility your baby could be seriously deformed because of the close blood relationship with the father. I suggest you make an appointment to see a doctor ASAP and because they are confidential they are the best person to give you advice :)

Answer 9

ok you really need to tell your mom. your dad is sick to have done that. and you should get to the doctor like now. having a baby is series and with your situation the child may be deformed due to the fact that you share the same genes with your father. and if you believe in abortion you should get one. i hope thing work out for you.

Answer 10

I am so sorry for you. Your dad has no right to put you in a predicament like this, and it makes me so sad that he has. As many others said, the baby could end up suffering mentally and physically because of the close DNA relation. Also, you didn't ask for this. You're young, and beautiful, and shouldn't have to worry about making a life decision like this. I really do believe that as terrible as it seems, an abortion is the best option. You have a right to decide what happens to your body, and pregnancy is not in the cards for you right now. Not to mention, that child would have to grow up knowing he or she was a product of rape. If that was me, I don't think I could live with that. And sweetheart, you shouldn't have to literally carry around a reminder of how you were violated and abused.

You need to speak to your mom as soon as you can. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with her, but as a mom, I know she loves you, and she'll be willing to listen. Ask her to go back-to-school shopping with you one on one, or grab some lunch. You have to understand that her reaction will likely be one of shock, and denial, because I don't think that anybody wants to hear that their husband, and the father or their children is capable of doing something so heinous. If she does choose to side with you, you can both decide what the best route to take is, whether that be abortion, calling the police, or hopefully both.

What happened to you is not your fault and was not in your control. You did nothing wrong. You didn't choose this fate, and you shouldn't have to suffer the consequences of your father's actions. You and your mom need to stick together. If, god forbid, she doesn't believe you, grab a friend or a relative and find the strength to report him. Hopefully, the police will be able to provide you with some next steps as well.

You are so strong. I don't know how I would cope in your situation, but I truly admire you, and wish you the best of luck. If you have any questions or would like to vent, please don't hesitate to e-mail me at [e-mail].

I'm thinking about you!

Answer 11

You need to tell your mom and then call the police on your dad.  Your baby will be at high risk for mental/physical disabilities if it is your dads.  Although I don't think abortion is right, I do feel that rape victims have a reason to have one.

Answer 12

I am sorry to hear about your situation..

1st- tell ur mum about this... she will stand there by you i am sure of that...

2nd... Go to the police,,, report him

3rd,,,,,go to the dr and talk to them with all the options that r available

personal experience..... please seek counselling.... please feel free to send me an email anytime if you need to talk,,,,,

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Answer 13

Wow...I'm so sorry! If your dad raped you then you are going to need to go to the police for one. But as far as the pregnancy goes you need to tell your mom that you are pregnant, go to an OBGYN, and start getting prenatal care. You should probably get counseling too. If you are worried about going back to school pregnant then you could ask your mom about homeschooling you or going to live with a relative while you have the baby. If you have any more questions please feel free to contact me.

Answer 14

if you feel you cant tell your mother, at least tell an adult you trust, a teacher, councellor or doctor, they will help you sort everything out

Answer 15

Just tell her she is your mom call the police

Answer 16

o chick.... are you ok???  i was pregnent with twins not that long ago infact the same ages as you are now i decided to keep them but lost them at 5 and 1/2 months.... it's up to you what you want....  talk tour mum it will be hard at 1st but you need her now more than ever

Answer 17

well, all I can do is tell you all the options of course. There is adoption, abortion, or you could always keep your baby. Whatever you do make sure it is what you want though. Also, if you dont have anyone to talk to feel free to email me ([e-mail]), even if it just to vent. good luck with your future decision

Answer 18

first of all, it doesnt sound like your telling the truth hey:|

if your DAD raped you, you wouldnt even be worried about taking pregnancy tests and school going back,

my step sister was raped by her own dad for 7 years, and she was so emotionally unstable including after the first time it happened. If you arent telling the truth, this sort of stuff is not even funny to even see what kind of answers u are getting, or just for plane amusement because it really happens to girls your age. but if you are telling the truth, i know what you are going through, email me if you needa talk i can help!

Answer 19

well tell your mom tell someone thats was sooo wrong

but i would get an abortion because since ur dad raped u the baby will be really messed up

Answer 20

get an abortion and call the police

Answer 21

I would say talk to a doctor that you really trust, and then tell your mom.  Your dad will be arrested for sexual harassment, and you will be safer that way away from him.

And if your mother doesn't call the police (which she should) then you have to call them!

Answer 22

Well, there are two things you could do. 1st you could go to your doctor or even your school councilor if you want to wait, and tell her (it would be easier on you if it was a female) everything that has happened, the rape and then the pregnancy and ask her for help in telling your mother and getting the appropriate help. OR 2nd you could just go and tell your mother, which will be a very hard thing to do so maybe ask a friend to be with you, and after you have told her then you will need to go to a doctor to discuss what to do about your pregnancy and the complications that may occur and talk through the options and then together go to the police to report it.

Good luck. Everything will be okay, you just have to get through this. Don't rush any decisions about your pregnancy though... its a crappy situation but the baby deserves you to atleast think about it.

Answer 23

Your dad is really MESSED UP.

Just tell your mom what happened and call the police.

Answer 24

I'm sorry.  If your biological father Raped you and got you pregnant then the baby may not be healthy. You need to tell some NOW to talk with the doctor or someone you trust about it.

Answer 25

well have you told your mum and go with your mum to the doctors and find out what you can do