I just found that my husband has been taking Lexapro and Ativan?

Question

These pills are for anxiety and depression. We have seperate sinks and I found these in his shave kit, then went through debit statements and looked for the receipts. He seems to have been taking them for 2 months.

I'm upset that he did not come and talk to me about this. I'm on an antidepressant myself and am open with him about it.

Should I say something to him or leave it alone? I do know that he has been under a great deal of stress at work lately, I assume that's a reason in his decision to medicate.

Thanks for any advice!

Answer 1

I would tell him that you understand why he's on this medications but you're a little hurt that he didn't feel that he could confide in you. I wouldn't make a big deal of it though. At least he went for help.

Answer 2

hes a man we dont share our problems that why hes on them

Answer 3

I take both Wellbutrin and Lexapro - for depression and anxiety.  When I made the first phone call to the doctor, I sat in front of the phone for over a half hour before I could make the call.  It's a scary thing for a guy to admit he's "broken" - we're brought up to be strong, and not show being weak.



I think your husband may have been afraid or ashamed to let you know, but now that you do, you might sit down with him and somehow work that into the conversation - and let him know you're behind him and support him 100 percent plus.  And try not to be angry with him.  Whether right or wrong, it's kind of a "guy thing"... sometimes we're hard to understand.



I wish you the best of luck :-)

Paul.

Answer 4

It's a lot harder for a man to seek treatment on his own than it is for a woman; some don't like to admit they need help. Be glad he's doing what is good for him. But I might just say that you've noticed or something. You can talk about it together, but don't be upset.

Answer 5

Leave him alone about it, and be glad he is seeking treatment

Answer 6

If your on them, maybe he didn't want you to worry,

something you need to talk to him about.  

Answer 7

Guys, especially traditional guys don't want to lay their burdens on their wives. Traditional men want to take care of their wives. If this describes him, don't bring it up. From his perspective, he saw a problem, went to get help, is taking the help, and is therefore doing his part to take care of his woman by handling his problem and not laying it on her.

If he is such a man, he's quite honorable and you should be glad, not hurt. Tell him he's a strong man and you love him for that. Tell him you admire him for going to work every day even though he is under a lot of stress. He does that out of love for you. That will help him to feel a little better. Treat him extra good and keep your little secret so that he can keep his and save face.  

Answer 8

Just ask him if the lexapro and ativan seem to be helping. He will respond from there. With him going through anxiety and depression he will feel more sympathetic to what you've been going through. Just love him through it. It will help him be more open with you on things. He's probably embarrassed.