I just got out of a 17 year relationship, he was my first boyfriend we have two children, what now???

Question

I just got out of a 17 year relationship, he was my first boyfriend we have two children, what now???

Answer 1

You have to move on with your life.  

Answer 2

thats sad, what happened?

Answer 3

Listen to the country song "Let herself go"  there are some great suggestions in it!

Answer 4

Now you live the rest of your life.

And please, learn your lessons.  If you're with someone for 3 or 4 years and he hasn't asked you to marry him yet, end it, because he probably isn't ever going to.  And, do not ever have children with someone who isn't even committed enough to you to marry you.

Answer 5

have fun. play the field. celebrate your new life.  

Answer 6

I realize you probably feel empty because he is the only guy you've been with, and you've shared too much time with this person. My advice would be to leave your children with your mother or anyone you trust, and go on a vacation with 2 friends. Go to the beach, party for a week, and see that there is more to life than your ex. Even a weekend in a spa with a friend should do you some good.

Return home to your children, count your blessings, and go to therapy, to figure out how to deal with this loss. It will take you some grieving time, the idea of partying around is not to deny you are in pain, but to open your eyes to the possibilities you have right now. But please do consider counseling, it is very important that you face your loss instead of pretending it is not happening, or on the contrary, dwelling in your grief for too long.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Keep your friends that support you close-by, they'll help you make it through this tough time while you explore being on your own and creating a new future for yourself and your children.

Invite them over for coffee often. Start networking and making new friends to help you fill up your time and give you a fresh start.  Keep busy, keep productive and don't beat yourself up if you should feel down or sad, just don't let those emotions take over. If you feel sad set the kitchen timer for  20 minutes and convince yourself that when the timer rings you need to move on and do something proactive. Everytime the sadness/neg feelings come back, drag that timer out and just keep yourself positive. LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, even when it gets tough, these are teaching moments, live, learn, and move on.

Best wishes.  

Answer 8

if   you  love  he   you can  go  with  he  together  

Answer 9

Go out and have a good time now with your friends and your children. After my divorce in which, I was married 12 years. I was very depressed for awhile but after about a month I started going out and playing pool. Went to a couple of bars not to drink just to socialize. I had the best time of my life. Trust me your kids will understand. Mine was 12 when I divorced. My daughter and I had a blast also.  

Answer 10

Don't marry the first guy you date, you made that mistake once.