I just had a babv boy and while i was pregnant my boyfriend cheated on me.?

Question

we were together for 7 years and now i find myself a single mom i wonder if i'll find someone some day who will really love and respect both me and my child. My ex is not even responsible to help me out with money i havent received anything from him my entire pregnancy and not even now that the baby is born. Does anyone have any advice?

Answer 1

Yes you will.  My sister had a daughter and the father was a peice of c**p, so she left him, and she felt the same way....she met another guy about a year later and is married to him now with a total of 4 children(including the daughter).  He takes wonderful care  of the daughter that isn't even his!  You'd never know he isn't her real dad.

Answer 2

file for child support you deserve to be helped out with your child and he needs to step up and be a father and a real man and give you money for that baby

Answer 3

There are some men out there like that, that cheat and then there are some really good ones, you just have to search. I know you are probably scared about being a single mother, but you can make it, and you will, for your son. There are a lot of great opportunites out there for single moms, free housing, free daycare, free schooling (college), so use that, but don't take advantage, you use these programs so that you can get your education, make more money and then get off the program. It's almost better to be in your situation, and as far as him not paying a penny. Take him to court for child support. If he doesn't pay you, then he can go to jail, you can get his taxes if he files.

I know right now you're just looking at the "right now" picture, and it doesn't look that great, but in the long run... everything will be fine!!

Good Luck and Congrats on your baby boy! =)

Answer 4

Get child support! He needs to be helping, it's his baby too!

Answer 5

I hate to sound hateful but go to court, establish paternity and get child support.  Don't try to do it yourself.  The court will garnish his checks if he doesn't pay.  He is just as responsible for your child as you are.  Takes two to have a child.  Some guys do not like to date women with children because they call it the baby daddy drama.  Some men don't care.  Good luck.  

Answer 6

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Answer 7

be strong and take care of your son dont go looking for what God hasnt sent you when he's ready he'll send you what your looking for just keep a open mind and heart

good luck

Answer 8

you will find someone else. it's good that you didn't put with the cheater because that shows how much self respect you have. i would say move on, put your child first, and you will be blessed.

Answer 9

I left my 1st husband because he was a horrible husband and father.  I didn't want my daughter to grow up listening to the way he talked to me, and see the way I was treated.  For years it was just me & my daughter.  I dated around, but then on April 7th 2007 I met the man of my dreams at a child's b-day party.  I was tired of being set up with guys, I stopped looking, and out of no where he was there.  We married this past June 14th, and he is the best thing to come into my daughters & my life.  There are men out there that will love your child unconditionally.  It may not happen right away, but it will happen.  Just enjoy your time with your child.

Answer 10

hi

it sounds like your better off without your boyfriend,he cant even support you and your baby,at the very least he should give you money to support his child,after all he helped make it!! as for cheating on you during your pregnancy thats low.just forget him,and get on with your life.im sure youll be a good mum to your baby,and there are lots of men out there and eventually youll find one who will love you and your little one,good luck for the future x*x

Answer 11

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I just wanted to tell you that you can do this. You are better off without him. My grandparents had 9 kids and then my grandfather left her. She raised all of them completely on her own. I am so proud of her and all her accomplishments. I'm sure your grandchildren will be saying the same thing about you. Good luck and your going to be great.

Answer 12

Well, if he didn't want the baby why did he spread his legs? It's his baby too tell him this! RIGHT NOW!

Answer 13

God don't give us anything we can't handle.Maybe it was a sign so you can see how much of a loser he is anyway. you don't need him you are a strong women. As far as meeting someone else yes you will. He might be right in front of you and you don't even know it yet. Congratulation on the new baby.Focus on your baby right now. Your man is coming.ooooooh don't forget child support baby.

Answer 14

as far as your ex not helping you out with money -- go to the department of social services and seek child support.

good luck! :)

Answer 15

Hit his *** up for some serious CHILD SUPPORT. The courts don't play when it comes to parents neglecting there child. He trifling also. 7 YEARS THO. Yeah he real trifling for what he did. Honey stay strong for your son. Your son is going to end up HATING his father for leaving him like that, If he try to come back. Kick his *** to the curb.

Get some CHILD SUPPORT, and FULL CUSTODY over your son. If he ain't paying, TAKE NOTE, and tell the court. He gone wish he ain't do what he did.

STAY STRONG FOR YOUR SON HONEY!

Answer 16

First I would go through the courts and get a court order for child support in place so that he has to take financial responsibility for your child.  Then concentrate on you and your baby!  Forget him, you don't need him.  You will meet someone much better down the road who will love, accept and respect you and your little boy.

Answer 17

honestly i never thought id say this but, child support.... it took me 2 yrs to finally go and file for it myself, after countless times where i was broke trying to find the money for things for my daughter and spending money i didn't have, i got sick of it. he cant choose to pay or not to pay, i haven't started receiving mine yet, but i cant wait till i do