I just had a baby 6 w eeks ago. My husband has 2 children from a previous marriage?

Question

I have had issues adjusting to the kids coming over off and on since we got married, but it seemed to be worse after I had my own . Is this normal? I want to be better at dealing with this and I am trying to but I just wondered if anyone has dealt with the same issue and what you did to improve? also do you think it had to do with post partim?

Answer 1

Being a step mom can be hard I know. I found it a little tougher after I had my own too because my step daughter was NOT happy about the new baby, and it did not help that her mom was not happy and trying to cause drama. Now that my son is 3, things have worked its self out more. It could be that you are adjusting to being a new mom..your baby is still so little!

Answer 2

It is hard I know.  I am currently in the same situation.  My fiance and I just had a boy 3 months ago today.  I was always a little uncomfortable around his daughter because she is spoiled and mouthy and I didn't want to be rude or step outside of my boundaries.  It got worse now because she acts like she is my sons mom and I have to tell her what she can and cannot do with him, which she is not happy about.  But, it put me in an awkward position with the both of them.  All I can say is that you are the adult and you need to approach every situation that way.  If you have a problem with one of his children then you can take it up with him first but you should also let him know that you are the adult and that his kids need to respect you and what you say goes especially when it comes to YOUR child.  Also don't look at yourself as just his wife.  You are the step-mother to his kids and you need to act the part as well as they need to respect you for who you are.  Hope this helps.