I just had a baby and starting to get the baby blues

Question

I would like some advice, I just had a baby a week ago and started getting the baby blues yesterday. It is mainly with my husband and at night because he is at work all day and not here with me. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can do? I don't want it to get worse and I don't want to get depression.

Answer 1

It sounds like you are isolated. Do what you can to see other people - call friends and family and ask them to come hang out with you and the baby.  

Answer 2

Try to find a mommy group or a place with other mothers where you can go during the day so that you are not all alone.  If you have family or friends that live close then ask them to come over and stay for a while.  I wish you the best of luck and I hope that your blues pass as quickly as possible.  However, if after a few weeks you are still feeling like this then please seek help so that you can be guided through it.

Best of luck

Answer 3

Im 28 weeks pregnant and form day one i ahve been worried about getting baby blues, iv recently read though that its very normal and usually only last for a few weeks.. Howvever my cousin astarted out with baby blues but later in lead to post psrtum and it got so severe that not only was she on a ton of meds for it but she also lost her son.  Spend as much time with your child as possible one on one time, when your husband is home if you baby is still awake spend all the family time u possibly can together... Also once ever other week go out for a girls night, the weeks you dont go for girls night u and ur husband do soemthing wheather its dinner or a movie, u guys still need time for you... and try not to talk about the baby, iv been told that helps... Howvever if you feel its gottin to out of hand immidieatly go see a dr, tey will ahve to get u to see a phyciatrist.. dont be scared to talk to someone.. they are there to help, i know its easier said than done but think of the baby... u dont talk to someoen and get the help u need early on it will make the babys life worse ..

good luck hun.n congrats.

im sure everything will b fine:):)

Answer 4

this will pass soon. the best advice i can give you is to look into your childs eyes and just remind yourself how lucky you are,,,,just count your blessings. also try drinking some chamomile tea this is relaxing for you and for your baby if you are breastfeeding. good luck.

Answer 5

Same thing happen to me about 3 weeks ago.. I just had mine 4 weeks ago..Don't worry it will go away soon...Just give it time

Answer 6

Try and have people over during the day if you can. That should help. If you can have someone come clean the house, even if you have to pay. When I first gave birth, I wanted to house cleaned!!! But I was too tired. A clean house will help you to relax more. Also remember it's hormones. And it wears off. I cried for two weeks, then came out of it. But, get people to come around! Good luck and congrats on the baby!

Answer 7

Use this website to find a Mothers of Preschoolers group in your area.  They are awesome!

Answer 8

I was kept really busy. My husband deployed 2 1/2 weeks after our son was born and so we had all the nit noid things that had to be done before he left. Of course he ended up leaving a couple weeks earlier than anticipated. I just wanted to sleep...

Answer 9

Are you alone all day with the baby?  If so, try to make plans with someone different every day, either to come over to your house or to meet elsewhere.  My baby is almost 8 weeks old, and in the beginning, there were days when I wouldn't even get dressed.  Now I make a point to go somewhere, ANYWHERE, every day.  Even if it's to the grocery store for a bottle of juice, just so we get out.  

Don't worry, though.  Baby blues are normal.  They should pass!

Answer 10

I had the same thing after my second child was born and it got so bad that I had to have my mom come help me because i was afraid of doing something crazy. I actually saw a psychiatrist and got put on antidepressants. I got better instantly after that and got off them a month later and been normal ever since. Do try to stay busy and make sure you tell people how you're feeling. Good Luck. You will be better