I just has my second miscarriage,

Question

i was a month along this time, and had to pass it my self, i told what i had passed into the doc's office, what will they test it for and could it tell me why i had another one , and how long until i will start a period?

this one is different i am sad but the last one i was so depressed. i have so much anger this time i cant understand it, and i feel like my husband just isnt supporting me . i know hes going threw this to but with all this anger its hard to remember any one but my self and my 6 year old i am not mean to him, but my husband seems to be the point of my fustrations please help

Answer 1

Is it not possible to really talk to your husband about his attitude to you/children/family? You might suggest a neutral third party who says nothing!! I f your partner has problems with s*x-no babies - your problem! is then perhaps you should seek councilling - try your church minister or someone/agency first.You have a difficult decision, the pill or a child hat might miscarry.  Stress is a major factor in this equation.  

Try and seek help, first by your self, then together.  Children are both a responsibilty and their parents responsibility because they caused it to be.

The untimate solution - no s*x - no unwanted children.  Harsh but unfortunately not a lesson many parents want to take responsibility for - especially on the male macho side.

I will pray for you that you receive good counciilling.  .

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss - it must be very hard and you feel many different emotions.  Keep in mind that pregnancy or even just the idea of becoming a aprent is such a different experience for men and women---it's not "real" for many men until the child is old enough to interact----let alone 1 month along.  Men can be insensitive without meaning to be....talk with him and tell him how you feel - he may be so frustrated as well but he may not know how to deal with what he is feeling...try sitting down and talking and start there.  Godo luck trying again!

Answer 3

I am sorry for your lost again, Please visit www.dnadirect.com and get the miscarriage test, It might be alot however you can find out all kinds of things that might be wrong. I lost my daughter at 20 weeks and I didn't know But I have 2 blood clotting disorders along with the gene mutation where I don't absorb folic acid... check it out or have your doctor test you...if you need anything please feel free to email me ..

Answer 4

omg you poor poor girl, i feel so sorry for you, im sorry but i dont think i can help but find out what the docter says

maybe try resting because you still have a kid, maybe your husband will understand in time

Answer 5

Have you ever heard that saying, we always hurt the ones we love? Well that is so true. We tend to do that. I am sure that your husband is just as upset and frustrated as you are. Thing you need to understand is, men don't usually take things the way that we do, and they don't like to show that they are hurting. I am sure that he is hurting just as much, but he is trying to maintain himself and be strong because he feels he has to do that for you. My sister and I were very close and she had 4 miscarriages. I was there throughout everyone of them. And this was so hard to just watch. I was having babies but she couldn't. Everyone beat up on her husband for not being more supportive and thing is, he just couldn't deal with it. He didn't know how and he ended up having a break down. I felt so bad for him because he was dealing with it in his own way and he actually took it just as hard as she did. He blamed himself when he was not to blame and he felt helpless because all she wanted was a baby and he could not do that for her. He wanted to give her everything but something that seemed so simple, he couldnt. Don't give up. My sister now has 3 beautiful kids. Just when you think it's impossible, the impossible will and does happen. But you do need to find a way to talk to your husband or perhaps get counciling if you need to. And step outside yourself just long enough to see that he has lost a child too. A child that he wanted too and would have loved the same as you. I know that mothers have that ultimate love, but a father has that special kind. Good luck and God Bless        

Answer 6

awww thats sad im srry! =[

Answer 7

so sorry for you, i have had 7 miscarriages in the past(i now have 3 healthy kids) so i imagine how hard this is for you.

it might be that the doctors are checking for blood clotting problems.

do you know what blood type you are, or more specificaly rhesus factor? my blood group is A rhesus negative, and its the rhesus factor which is important, because if you are negative it meansd that after a pregnancy or miscarriage then the babys blood and yours mix, the negative aspect of the mums blood basicaly kills the antibodies in the babies blood and causes miscarriage. if the baby is also rhesus negative the preganancy goes ahead o.k

in the case of a rhesus neg blood type, a simple injection after each birth or miscarriage puts things right for the next preganancy.

this is quite a common cause of repeated miscarriages, but not always checked for so ask your doctor your rhesus factor.