I just hate being a twin HELP !

Question

Somtimes i really hate being an identical twin i have been asked to do a clothes photo shoot and was reall exited beacuse it was just me and people would see me Carly now they want my sister to do it to because we are identical!!!

now we are having arguments over it and she really doesnt understand even though i keep telling her how much this meens to me! HELP

Answer 1

im so sorry, i cant relate. Talk to your parents because if they are paying for a photo shoot then they can make it so your sister isn't with you. If you are paying- I would not even tell your sister- go do it.

If neither of these apply, try writing a letter to her. sometimes EXACTLY what you want to say comes out better in writing. THEN maybe she will understand.

I hope the best for you Carly

Answer 2

I am sorry you feel that way.  I think it would be so cool to be an identical twin.  Being an identical twin is really unique.  As for the photo shoot just tell them that you want to do it by yourself and that if they want you to do it with your sister then you won't do it because you don't like having to do everything together.  You could also do some photos together and some individually.

Answer 3

??? i don't think people are even reading your question properly before answering OR ELSE THEY WOULDN'T BE SAYING IF YOUR PARENTS ARE PAYING?? OR ANYTHING ELSE SILLY LIKE THAT...

So your being paid well thats a great start very few people get to this stage!! I am not a twin but i can relate to wanting to have your own idenditiy and not be a part of something just to be sucessful in your own right...

I think you just need to be honest and have a frank conversation with your sister, surely she must have similar feelings??

Hope you get it sorted... and people read the question before they answer lol... its my bugbear :) x

Answer 4

You are going to struggle all your life if you don't simply accept the fact that being a twin makes you different than anyone else. While you may not be joined at the hip, you share life with another person, and no one but you, your sister and your mother really understand what that is really like. Everyone else out there thinks this is some cool thing and they envy you. I know its not, that the struggle to be your own person is a difficult one. You have struggled since birth to get the attention you need as a person, and while its not your mothers fault, she's had to struggle as well. As a mom of twins, I spent my daughters childhood trying my best to treat them as individuals, knowing there was only so much I could humanly do. What you don't realize is that your sister feels exactly the same as you do.

You two need to talk about being a twin, and how you are going to live your life. This is should be one of many talks. Both my daughters at times have actually not mentioned they had a twin to their friends, like when they were away at school. They struggled with their personal identity and their person path. The hardest part for me was the realization that I could never give enough attention, I would have to settle for the best I could do. There were situations that still bring tears to my eyes, school for instance when one got to do something the other did not because our schools policy was to keep them seperate.

The teen years were a nightmare, one is introverted and very shy, the other more outgoing. One always had a boyfriend, the other never has. Struggling to find themselves and embrace the way they are different caused bitter fights and hurt feelings. I was at a loss to help them, other than pushing for them to talk and keep talking.

Now they are 25, they are sharing the home one of them owns. They are both in grad school with their dreams being realized. They are nothing alike, but they have learned to come to grips with their differences. I am very proud of both of them and I know they will be ok in life where ever it takes them.

You and your sister need to stop fighting about something you can't control, your twinhood and start having some real conversations about who you are as people. If this photographer only intended on taking pictures of twins, then you may need to pass. Don't blame your sister for a professionals decision. I seriously suggest you spend time away from each other, use college for that purpose. Go to different schools and be your own person. I think you will then realize that the advantage of having someone so close to you will become a positive instead of an annoyance.  

Answer 5

i understand...and i dn't think ur wrong for feeling this way.  Sometimes when ppl think twins they always group u 2 together as one and everyone needs to feel like an individual...try explaining it to her again without yelling or involve somone that might be able to explain ur feelings more like a parent...ur not wrong for wanting to be seen as jus you