I just lost my dad, he just found out 4 weeks ago he had colon cancer, they did surgery to remove it?

Question

something bad happen, the cancer strated spreading to his liver and lymph nodes and then he started talking really crazy, doctors never said but could that mean the cancer went to his brain. he actually got better, was going to come home in a week and then he took a turn for the worse, his suger dropped to 40 and they couldn't get him back, my dad passed away, i'm having a hard time dealing with it and i'm worried about my mom, they were married 35 years. i've cried so much and i am so drained, i feel like i cant function right now, is this normal, all i wanna do is sleep, please help......

Answer 1

It is perfectly normal, you have just suffered a great loss.  What you are experiencing is part of the grieving process, just allow your self time to mourn.  Surround your self with family this helped me when I lost my mother.....I am truely sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

I am so sorry about your loss.  Colon cancer, unfortunately, is one of the aggressive forms of cancer, that there is.  

There is always the possiblity of the cancer spreading to his brain, which made him talking really crazy.  It could have also been the meds he was on, or a combination of the two.

It is going to be very tough on you.  I lost my father to cancer, and its going to be very depressing.  

If you need/want to talk, please do not hesitate to e-mail me, as I know what you are going through.

Answer 3

Just pray,pray and pray. Your depressed which is normal. the doctor can give somthing to help you cope. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad too.

Answer 4

it is normal to cry whwn someone dies. but don't cru too much or u might become sick. i am very sorry about yur dad.

Answer 5

Im sorry abotu your lost but yes once it spreads to duke stage 4 which he was in his survival chance is very slim ino how it is i lost my grandpa off it yes the surgery helped but it already spread to the lymph nodes and to other major organs your prolly wondering why he didnt notice b4 it got to stage 4 but colon cancer shows no sighns till its later stages. PLZ get a colonoscopy when you turn 40 it could be in your gene  your at a high risk of getting it. A colonoscopy could save your life.

Answer 6

It is normal to feel this way, you are just dealing with the pain. It could have went to his brain if it was spreading that fast. My g-pa passed in 06' with colon cancer about 2 yrs after diagnosed. they also did surgery but it had spread. towards the end he was talking crazy too but some of it was caused from the morphine so if they had him on pains meds that prob had something to do with it. Sorry to hear about your loss, it will take time.

Answer 7

Of course this is normal. Try not to worry about it. You are obviously very depressed at the moment with all that has happened. This happening to you has obviously hit you hard. Probably the best thing to do is talk to some one about it. Have a good moan with some one. Let it out and try not to keep all your feelings inside., This should help alot and get alot of weight off your shoulders.

Answer 8

im very very sorry for you that really does suck.

The cancer doesnt necessarily have to spread to the brain for him to start "talking crazy" The cancer just really needs to affect the endocrine system, the liver, kidneys, adrenal glands, and other organs to make a person start to lose their mind. There are many chemicals and hormones that are made up in our abdomen. These chemicals can affect us in many ways by causing mental disorders such as having anxiety, stress, panic, depression, rage, etc. Please look up the HPA Axis.

When the cancer spread it probably had a serious affect those organs, chemicals and systems. Also, there is still a good chance, that yes, it spread to his brain due to the face that you mentioned it spread to his lymph nodes. Lymph nodes are located throughout the body and MORE specifically the Lymphatic vasculature, which you can picture as a twisty curvy highway, runs throughout the entire body including the head/brain. So yes, it is highly possible that the cancer spead into the lymphatic vasculature highway and affected his brain that way.

The only thing that will help you is time. Im sorry this happened. But you gota be strong for your mom and help her.

The emotions you are dealing with are all very normal. I suggest you and your mom possibly get counciling or some kind of therapy , it will help and may save you both from going into a deep deep depression.

wish you the best.

Answer 9

Ouch. Well, um..... ouch.  i can"t really help much

Answer 10

Hang in there, your pain and worries are completely normal. When we sleep it helps us get away and makes us stop thinking for at least even that brief time. Remember the good times that you had, and think about what he would want for you in this time. It will get better, remember to be strong for your mom and family.