I just moved, How do I adjust

Question

if you had to move somewhere and didnt know anybody or anything? I am having trouble adjusting to the town i just moved to. It is a nice town and everything. I just dont have any friends here. I miss my old friends. I have my husband and I am happy for that. I just feel like I am not living my own life. I feel out of my element, and sorta alone. I could go to some military wife group thingy - but i dont want to go and have someone tell me they know how i feel, or try and make friends with some click-ish military wife self-important type women :( any advice

Answer 1

you will find friends or they will find you

some places we find more and/or closer friends than in other places

but you will find friends

if you do go to a military wife group thingy you might just meet someone there that is totally not what you expected at all, maybe someone who also doesn't want the same things you are talking about

you don't have to go with the ones who are click-ish and from how strong you feel and by what you have said I doubt that you will, but stay open too because there are all kinds of people and some of them might just be your friends, real ones

Answer 2

sorry. you are brave. i couldnt do that, literally my soon to be ex was going to force me to live on base. as if. lol anyway. take some time for you. maybe find interests or hobbies you like and incorporate them in you life. if you like yoga find a local yoga place. if you like to drink coffee and read go to borders, etc. sometimes the best things, closest friend happen without trying. i would resist in rushing in mil. wife thing, my sister whos husband is getting shipped again in sept to iraq; was a apart of the local chapter wife group and it was a b fest and she had a lot of drama things from it. but maybe your group will be better. take sometime to become closer to you and explore;;;;painting, etc. i find if i paint random pics with odd colors i enjoy it.. expression art.  

Answer 3

When I moved houses, it was hard. Its probably even harder for someone like you.

Just join a club, or maybe take walks around the neighborhood and you'll meet people new. Go a gym or just go to local places where you can easily meet new people.

If you're not that outgoing and don't like just walking up to strangers, join a class, like yoga, a gym class, or even an art class!

Answer 4

hhhhmmmm....good question...well...you could join a fitness club, or something of the sort, or visit a chruch, or volenteer you services to help the community, or get to know your neighbors :D