I just need some advice please.

Question

My mom is quite the pessimist. I've tried my hardest to make her happy, this has gone on for years and years and years. I'm exhausted from doing it. I'm sick of her and her negative attitude. I feel like I'm fixing to go insane. I'm 5 months pregnant. And I can't handle this bull anymore. This is just really short and emotionless because I've cried all of the emotions out of myself. What would y'all do?

Answer 1

The best thing you can do for yourself and your baby is to learn that people like that you cannot make happy. As you already know you will remained stressed, so calm down because that is what your child needs. Just remember that you have tried your hardest and nothing you can do can help her. Trust me I have been there, but learned quickly that I need to be calm for my baby, and not create a stressfuenvironmentnt for her.  

Answer 2

I heard this from an amazing video and it took me by surprise..."When you're s******g up and nobody says anything to you anymore, that means they've given up on you." Just remember you mom is doing this because she cares and loves you. From my experience family is supposse to drive you insane because the real world will kill you with out it. You need to talk to your mom one on one and make her listen don't let her talk until you have it all of your chest but don't make her give up.Remember you are pregnant so you are more sensitive and horomonal then normal too. (I am not supporting you mom no one can be perfect but I have learned to live with the crazy things are family do the crazy things they are because if you don't learn to accept them as they are life will be h**l and you family will not change if they don't want to) What I would do is talk to my mom and accept my mom as she is because I know how it ends up if you don't and you cut them off that drives more insane and gives you h**l in bottle with a bunch of emotions in a bag everyday until you make things right.

Answer 3

Like the poster above me stated, all you can do is remain positive for the sake of yourself and your baby.

If I were you I would quit trying to change her, because she is a Pessimist, and that is a trait she's probably fully worked into her personality by now.

All you can do is adapt. Don't let it affect you anymore. For example, if everytime you have dinner together it is a negative and draining experience, start declining her invitations. Sooner or later she will catch on and ask why you are behaving this way. While people can ignore words, actions are much more persuasive.

Answer 4

This may sound crazy but try recording her and have her listen and watch herself. Then talk to her about how you interpret her actions and being pessimistic. Don't know how old you are but you may need to get out of the house on your own. You don't need anymore stress in your life while your pregnant, than what you are already going to deal with. Good Luck

Answer 5

mm im sorry u have to go through that [:

Talk to her. If that doesn't help, just try to ignore what stress she's bring into ur life. Be as nice as possible. Respond in love, not anger :) Ur mom loves you of course, she just may be going through something as well [: Talk to her, pray, show love, u should be fine :) Hope this helps

Luv,

sarah