I just need someone to tell this to, its bothering me. Please look.?

Question

So school has been going on for two weeks and on the first day of school I met this guy a year older than me in one of my classes. He is really cool and we have been buddies for these past two weeks. Over those weeks i got to know him more and more. he is a partier,drinks, does Oxycontin But then again..so does everyone else at my school.

I'm a good girl but I don't look like it. I look just like any other "popular girl" as some of you would say. I could easily go to a party and nobody would know that I've never been drunk, high, or whatever. I got invited by the guy to go to a movie on friday night on tuesday and i was like ok sure sounds cool. Today about an hour ago he called and wanted to know if I wanted to go to a party where there would be a lot of drinking/shet going on. I am so uncomfortable with that and i told him hold on a second. So I quickly told him that i wasn't allowed out of the house. he kept asking me to lie to my mom and tell her that we are just going to the movies. I tell him that my mom says she must drive me to wherever i'm going. He gets bummed out and says maybe next weekend. So I said bye and after that call I felt like complete shet.

I like him alot as a friend but I just don't like the party scene. I didn't even know whos house it was at.. plus its 9:30 at night..

Some of you might say I'm a goodie goodie, but it's just how I was raised.

I really don't like this situation. I just needed to get this off of my chest.

Please post your thoughts. I need help.

Answer 1

That's peer pressure and good-for-you for not caving under the pressure. If he's into the drinking/drug scene, he will more than likely pull you into it too. Be proud of your standards. Don't worry about what he thinks. Be with people that you are comfortable with, that share your interests and that make you feel good about yourself. Don't hang out with people that make you feel bad or inadequate about yourself or your family.

Answer 2

I hope my daughter is like you when she gets your age. You handle the situation the right way. props to you! It doesn't matter how you nerdy you may seem to other just rest easy that you did the best thing for yourself and made god and people on this planet proud of you. Don't ever give in to peer pressure.  I've witnessed and heard of bad things that happened to the girls that I went to school with. be proud. your parents did a good job with you.  

Answer 3

same situation.

if he's worth even being your friend, just explain it to him that your not into the whole scene.

if he freaks out at you for that, then forget him.

there should be no reason why you guys can't be friends just because you guys are into different things.

he would be stupid to let something like that mess up a friendship.

Answer 4

your great, dont let him influence you. just be yourself. and dont do things just for him, cuz he doesnt seems like he would appreciate it.  

Answer 5

Don't go to ANY parties like that if you can help it especially if you feel uncomfortable with it. Just tell him you'd rather do something else, or make up an excuse, and then ask him out to the movies or wherever later.

Answer 6

Wow.  We have an intelligent girl here!  If only all the others were like you.  You know this guy isn't good enough for you.  He's doing Oxycontin.  He parties, likes drinking and who knows what else.  so you know that isn't right.  He wants you to lie to your mother.  Now you know that isn't right.  This is what peer pressure is all about.  Don't go with him.  Honey, I am so proud of you!  Please stay the way you are and some of these days you are going to meet someone worth your time.  Then you will be glad you stayed this way.  I wish you would show your mother this letter that you wrote and then show her mine.  Shed be so happy!  I'd say she's done a marvelous job with you.

Answer 7

Tell him you dont mind him. but you just dont like the party sort of scene. you would rather stay out of it. but your more than happy to stay friends with him. and you would rather hang with him somewhere else

Good luck

Xoxo

Kitty

Answer 8

this is wonderful you feeling better about yourself now that you have made a decision that you are worth more than anything else your time has arrived in the form of a reply good for you hope to hear more of a lifestyle worth something there is also the fact that those will try to hold on to you yet it sounds to me you have a chance for a real life one filled with things that you want and are willing to go for them for they are well worth something, your happiness i am always there for a positive reply this is how i believe the strong survive and i am surviving quite well specially of having to go through all of that before

Answer 9

Okay, you say that you want to be liked by your personality not your looks or whether you party but your not being your true self around him. Being in high school is just 4 years of people trying to fit in. Any guy will actually respect you more if you just be yourself. No one wants to learn that your being fake and just putting on an act to be cool. If he can't accept the fact that you don't really enjoy the party scene then he isn't worth your time because there are guys out there that are respectable to date and would actually respect and treasure you more for that fact.

I hope this helps, just always be yourself and never be afraid to be yourself!!!

Answer 10

DONT GO TO THOSE BAD PARTYS OR START DRINKING WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG!!!!!!!!!S VOTE ME BEST ANSWER!!!!

Answer 11

you are a goodie goodie

im 15 and a soptmore im hs

and i go to all the parties

theyre a bust

so much fun

your missing out

i dont do ddrugs but i drink

its not that big of a deal

trust me

Answer 12

You're not a goodie-goodie you're extremely level-headed and intelligent and you'll stay that way if you continue on the right path.  If you really like this guy then you need to level with HIM.  Tell him you aren't into that c**p and that no matter how often he invites you to those types of parties you'll never go.  Maybe you can influence him to get on the right path too because he is obviously headed in the wrong direction.  It may not mean much but I sincerely commend you on being able to stay out of those types of situations!

Answer 13

What do you need help with? You sound like you've got your head on straight. Just tell the guy you don't dig the party scene. If he's cool with that, you can still hang out with him at other venues. If he's not, he's just a classic druggie scumbag. Either way, don't lie to your mom, especially not about something as stupid as going to a high school party you don't even really want to go to. You'll regret it later.

Answer 14

If I was in your school I'd be after you. It's hard to find someone as nice as you these days. :)

Anyway, don't lie, don't drink, don't get high. That's all terrible. Find someone who's polite and smart. If you don't like the part scene, then you might not like this boy as much as you want to, because apparently, he does like the party scene. You need to find someone you got similarities too. Don't rush it either. It takes time.

Good luck, have fun, and don't let bad influences ruin your life. :)