I just turned 17, is this normal?

Question

I'm 17 and I have a messy room (my mum says this is a sign of disrespect) I don't have a job, I study 2-4 hours a night, I stay up late either studying or just mucking around on the computer, I have trouble waking up in the morning and on weekend I sleep in heavily, I like to go to friends houses and I get grumpy when I am stressed, is this normal teenage behaviour or am I a lazy, disrespectful ****.

Can you include your age with your answer, 10 points for the best answer

Answer 1

yes completly am 16 and the same way mainly thro summer but dont worry well grow out of iy sooner or later  :)

Answer 2

I am 19 and I don't necessarily think you are being disrespectful but I do think that you should be working. Since you are not working you should be able to at least tidy up every now and then. I think you are being lazy because soon you will want your own car and you should at least earn part of the money for it yourself. That is the only way you will grow up. I am 19 and have my own apartment and car and am in my third year of college and I did it all on my own. Knowing you did somthing on your own makes you appreciate it that much more.  

Answer 3

Sounds normal to me.  If you do as you say here then she is lucky you are not getting into trouble.  I hope I can say my daughter does what you are doing at your age.  I am 33 and I have a 12 year old daughter.   I think you would be abnormal if your room was not messy.

Answer 4

When I was 17 I was the same way, and I have 2 teenage sisters and they also are the same way. I think its just part of the growing stage. In fact I have never seen a teenager not like this. I am 21 now and a female. Your mom will fuss Every mother does at this age and time. All I can say is you will grow out of it live and learn.

Answer 5

My room was often described as a 'disaster area', as my mom would say... we lived in an old house & my closet was 2 feet wide, 1 foot deep, 7 feet high... so, my clothes never fit!  I had stuff everywhere!!

Finally my dad went to home depot & bought some shelves, that helped.

Ask your mom for some shelves and both pick a day you can dedicate to your room.  Get rid of things that don't fit or you would no wear any more.  This way your mom will be able to see first hand your lack of space and you'll be showing your respect at the same time.

Tell your mom you spoke to a 35 year old woman who has a very clean and neat house today, but her room 'looked like a bomb hit it' for many of her teenage years!

Good luck!  And yes, you are normal!