I just turned 18..i want to get pregnant?

Question

i dnt know why but ive been really wanting to be pregnant and have a baby of my own...im going to college and i know its stupid to mess taht up..but i cant help how i feel..is this normal.or what

Answer 1

Yes, I think its normal...but not wise. If you are in college, you only have a few more years before you are finished. You can then afford to support a baby, which will make it a much more pleasant and rewarding experience. It is selfish to have a baby (on purpose) when you can't properly care for it. Besides, by the time college is out, you may find yourself with someone special to share the experience....that makes it much more rewarding in the long run.

Answer 2

It's not abnormal to want to have a baby!

I felt the same way since i was little!

BUT - wait till you are a bit older!  Married is best, but in a loving committed relationship is great too!

Don't worry you are normal and you will know when the right time is!

But, it's not right now!

Good Luck in college!

Answer 3

i never felt the need to want to go to college. im 19 and 6 months pregnant and have been affording all my baby items so far. i've also been married for a year. my other married girl pals want to go to college and are holding off the babies till they are done. one said she wants a baby but is going to college because her mom is forcing her to. she's also 19 now and if she's still listening to her mom, she shouldn't have a baby in my opinion. if you have someone that means so much to you as to have a baby with them, go for it. to me, everything happens to you for a reason. it's just meant for you in future events. but, just go with your heart. there's online college that could help. i'm going to try that after the baby is born and i'm home.  

Answer 4

It's not a strange thought, but I enjoyed doing what I wanted to do without the pressure of taking care of a child.  Enjoy those college years...u have plenty of time to have a baby.

Answer 5

finish school, then get married and then have children. it will be so much better than struggling alone and you will be able to enjoy your baby. maybe get a dog "of your own" for now

Answer 6

I was the same, and now I am 3 months pregnant. Please don't. :-( My boyfriend left, and its the hardest thing I've ever been through. I've already been hospitalized once and I now have devoted my life to this little one. And put off college.

Answer 7

How you feel is not abnormal but please dont do it if you can help it. Im about to turn 21 and I found out I was pregnant at 19 and had my son at 20, hes almost 7 months now. Im so happy to have him but he was an accident. If I didnt get pregnant accidently I wouldnt have had him. Now I live with my mom, Im on welfare, and Im scrambling to try and get my associates degree done so Im able to support us on our own. His dad and I are still together but we struggle financially. Hes hardly ever able to give us money. He works full time and goes to school full time and has to miss out on his sons milestones because of it. Our son just started crawling and sitting up on his own and he hasnt even seen it yet because he lives two hours away. There just wasnt any other way to make our lives work and get things together so that we can live together as a family and still be financially stable in a year or so.

I coudnt wait to be a mom since I was like 15 but its hard knowing that if I hadnt gotten pregnant so soon I would have been able to give my child a better life. When you have a child you hav eto remember that it has nothing to do with you, its all about them and whats best for them. Your current situation isnt whats going to be best for them. Wait till you finish school and get a decent job and are settled in financially before you get pregnant.

No one ever tells you all the sucky things about pregnancy or raising a child. There are pleanty of them, especially when your just trying to make ends meet.

By the way, Im not just some idiot who got knocked up. We used a condom, I took the morning after pill when it broke, and we still got pregnant. Not only that but before I got pregnant I was working part time and getting back into school, and now I have a GPA of 3.8 even after going to school the whole time I was pregnant, while I was in the hospital and having him as a newborn. Never missed an assignment! Its alot harder though physically, mentally and emotionally. Waiting is your best bet for you and your child to be happy!  

Answer 8

Its very normal to feel that motherly kind of instinct coming on, I mean your body has been prepared to have one for a while now, but u have to fight the feelings, so that u can create a better life for the baby that u will have someday.

Answer 9

I feel the same way I am currently in college and I did a lot of research about having children and how to take care of the. I am prepared to have a child, but while doing my research I have come to the conclusion that it is better to have a child after my education and to save money for a few years, babies are expensive and will take up most of my time so I want to be able to be the best mother. It's very important to be me to be able to support myself as well as any children so I am waiting, I feel as though it is the right thing.

Answer 10

go to college first! its wiser! :) that way youll be set and ready to raise your child

Answer 11

It's not that unusual.  I had 2 sisters that each started college, and then suddenly dropped out to get married because they were pregnant.

Our elder daughter graduated from college got married, and she and her husband now have 3 lovely children. Our younger daughter is still in college, and should graduate on 2010.

So it is possible to wait until after you graduate.

Grandpa